Ignorant guy unexpectedly kisses your girlfriend?

[Anonymous]

This event happened a while ago as it still bothers me? She was busy working with her cousins at a birthday function where out of no where this random guy came from behind and kissed her on the lips, which she really got mad and cussed at him and left hurt and angry back home. That night she rang me and told me everything about what happen, I know she didn't have any intention at all towards this selfish punk but she felt hurt and guilty that it will hurt me when she told. She broke down emotionally crying on me saying that she Loves me which I do believe and I do to and also said that I should just break-up with her as I deserve better? And not deal with this bullsh*T...

I do not blame her at all because it ain't her fault and she couldn't do anything about it as it was unexpected and selfish from this guy. I knew why she felt his way because she thought that I would not understand her feelings on how hurt and painful it has affected her emotionally and may have blamed her even thou its not her fault what happened?

I love her so much that I told her I wasn't going to let something that stupid ruin our relationship and reassured her that I will and always love her. It took her a while to realize how much she meant a lot to me and says that she's thankful to have me in her life and how much I care.

But every now and then some one would bring up the subject and now she would considered it as sorted off cheating?...I do not know what to call it ass technically cheating or random jealous guy? Please help from all gender's!

Thanks in advance

[LatinDancer07]

This doesn't seem to make any sense. If a guy randomly came up to kiss me from behind, id be expected my boyfriend and the SECOND, very SECOND I notice it's not him, I'd be fighting him off. This issue really wouldn't have warranted all those reactions she gave you if she were innocent. The real story might've been that she's been attracted to another guy at work and they kissed, but to play it off and because she doesn't want to keep things from you and she has strong feelings for you, she gave you that story. All in all, it's still a lie and there is a bigger issue that she's hiding. If the story she told you had actually happened to me, I would've told my boyfriend as she told you and it would've been left alone because nothing more came of it, I wouldn't let it happen again, and I would've initially pushed the guy away so there wouldn't be an issue.

You need to investigate this a little more. She feels guilty about something, that's why she reacted to you that way.

[enigmaticlady]

Tell her that cheating has to be consensual. And as she didn't actually consent, she shouldn't worry so much. It wasn't her fault and you don't blame her for it.

Also, you should probably tell those people that keep bringing up to stop because they're upsetting her.

Good luck!

[Anonymous]

Sounds a bit sus if you ask me if a guy snuck up behind you and tried to kiss you id think you would put up a bit of a fight. She sounded guilty about it by sugesting that you break up with her because you deserve better. It would be convenient for her if she met someone else she was interested in. A kiss is not something you breakup over, expecially if it was unrequited.

Maybe she isn't telling you everything, or how it happened...

[MakeLoveNotWar]

This.

[Elcristoph]

Hello,

if the guy kissed her and her reaction was to push him away and tell him to get losted then I would say your ok.. if her response was to accept the kiss then I would say leave her asap..

give her a cooling off period of about 4 days and then ask her on a date for a coupld of hours.. just you and her out for a meal with no distractions.

Good Luck

-Chris

[House-MD]

Who is "that" someone, who brings that subject up?