Conversation starter ideas with the guy I like?

[kaelah]

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he also uses emojis so what emojis are flirtyy?

[b_lova]

I'm too old to know what emojies are flirty except these three and I wouldn't use them if it's not a serious relationship. 🌮🍆💦

To answer your first question. All guys are different. The best conversation starter is to ask him questions that let him talk about his interests.

Ask him, "What do you do in your spare time?" And if he gives you a general answer that doesn't go deep enough then ask about hobbies or things he is passionate about.

Remember to use your own language and be yourself. And please don't forget, if he doesn't like who you are, he wasn't worth your time anyway.

[SomothErgai]

Impossible to say without knowing what his interests are. And it also depends on what kind of conversation you want to have. If you're just looking for a straight up convo about something he likes that's going to take an effort on your part to actually take an interest and ask him questions about it.

Take me for example. I love philosophy and debate, science and technology, film and games, medicine and martial arts, outdoors and camping and lots and lots of stuff.

Chances are he's into some of that shit too so try to talk about something from those subjects.

However if you're looking to be more flirty and have a more sexual conversation that's easy. Everybody loves sex. Asking him some questions like, where is his favorite place to cum. Would you consider banging in a movie theater. Stuff like that will get that conversation flying.

[_Maya_]

Well that all depends. What do you know about the guy? That is where I would start is something you know he likes. Even bonus points if you can find something he likes that you do to. Anything you have in common is a good starting point because you both will want to talk about it (whatever it is). I would assume you must know a little about him if you like the guy. What is he into? If I knew that I could give you some ideas of how to approach him and what to say to start a conversation.

[kaelah]

he doesn't really like talking about himself if I ask him a question he will just answer and then stop talking he likes talking about me tho, he asks what you doing a lot and then I say it and he says OK, he says OK a lot and then just stops talking and then like 20 minutes later askes what you doing again so I want to ask questions but I need a more detailed answer..

[_Maya_]

Ah. Sounds like he doesn't know what to say or keep the conversation rolling. Okay so do you know something that he likes to do? Like is he into sports or? Is there anything you know of that you have in common with him? Sounds like he wants to talk to you. Also by the details you give it sounds like he probably likes you as well. He wouldn't take that sorta interest in you or what you are up to if he didn't. So it is going to be about finding a common "like" to talk about.

[kaelah]

he tells me he likes me and we have flirty nicknames and he flirts and is really dirty ahah but he always wants to talk but I don't think we really have anything in common we talk about shows we like and about a movie I watched that we laugh about and he works but doesn't talk about it he never wants to talk about himself tho so I wanna flirt abit but don't know how to start or what to say

[_Maya_]

Aww that is cute you two have the flirty nicknames going already. So I see you mention that you talk about shows you like. Maybe that is your ticket. So if it were me in your shoes I would bring up a show you guys talk about and laugh, etc... that is a perfect opening to say something like hey would you want to get together and watch it sometime?

It sounds to me like what is happening right now is you two are dancing around the idea of doing something together but no one is going to take the lead. Someone has to make that move and suggest getting together. It can be totally casual like hanging out and watching a show you both like or a movie you have talked about. You have the opening to do it.

[_Maya_]

Flirty emojis

💜🤗💕🥵😍😘

[kaelah]

so the show we laugh about is really bad like inappropriate so we laugh bcs I tell him he can't watch it and he always wants to watch it with me and I say hell noo, but I don't know why but I never call or send voice notes to him and he hates that he always asks me too like in person with him it's so easy but ver text I'm awful, so I can't make the first move bcs his sister is my best friend and she would be so mad if she knew I was speaking to him so I told him not to tell her so I just want to flirt and be cute but not take any steps, him and I talk and we've broken the ice, but we are both abit dry so I don't know I want that to stop

[_Maya_]

So I am wondering what your end goal is here. I only ask because of this part of the reply...

"bcs his sister is my best friend and she would be so mad if she knew I was speaking to him so I told him not to tell her so I just want to flirt and be cute but not take any steps"

So what do you want to get out of this with him ultimately?

[kaelah]

I don't know, I really don't knoww, I wanna date but also don't want too and I also just want a cute fling since that's what being a teenager is but I honestly have no idea what I want I just want to play it out be a little cute and flirty and see where it goes

[_Maya_]

Fair enough. I was just curious. I know you are trying to be respectful to your friend.

[laly520]

maybe topics he find interesting? common interests yk

[RebelinSteel]

Things you have in common, events you may have shared (not necessarily together but in general), things he’s interested in etc.

its really about getting some ice breakers that are a way to get him talking and interested in you.

do you share common likes?

[RebelinSteel]

Ref update and mainly as I can’t be bothered doing all of them lol

Here is a link with a bunch

www.cosmopolitan.com/.../

The main thing is adding some context and possibly wording to imply flirting or something similar

[kaelah]

life saver!! 🫶

[TheorionMage]

Genuine compliments are always a good 'opener'... at the minimum its 'rude' not to at least reply: "Thank you" for noticing. ;)

[DryGermanGuy]

„So, how about that Dodgers game, huh?“
„You got a light?“
„Is it cold in here or is it just me?“

[GoGetitGio]

Ask him about stuff he’s interested in. Is he on a team? A musician? A gym bro a gun or car enthusiast what’s he into? Ask him about that and let him cook! He will get in his comfort zone and you can find out a lot about him

[kellytheman]

Maybe try to find something in common or compliment on the way he looks or what he is wearing. If you compliment a guy he might get the hint you like him.

[Hellur991]

Toung out, hearts, eye heart emoji. And talk to him about cars🤣

[OtterMan68]

What do you like to do on the weekends?

What's on your playlist?

[jahaims]

Don't try to script it or over think. If someone isn't interested then move on.

[RedInnocent69]

Hmmm, what’s he interested in? Maybe you can ask him to help or teach you something.

[dolemite58]

Ask him how long into the relationship are you comfortable farting around each other 😋

[QuietRunner]

sports or video games

how about some type of television show?

[Anonymous]

Don't fake you have the same common. Just bumped into him and asked him questions about himself and his family or what his hobbies are. Then if he minds if you could tag along.

[jjj101010]

Find something he’s interested in. I’ve messaged u too

[boobliker]

ask do you have much time on your hands?

[mickeysmonkey]

how is your day

[DrPepper12]

Wanna fuck?

[DrPepper12]

@kaelah I had a friend in college who would do just that. @ 1/25 success rate. Got his ass kicked at about 3/25. Slapped / wearing a drink about 3/5. But he was NEVER alone at the end of the nite. Confidence and boldness favors the brave!