Polls: Relationships

Alex and lover Kelly move in together. Both have graveyard schedules & smoke. Kelly usually finishes smoking faster & goes inside first. Kelly also uses a small metal black footstool outside.

Alex can't see it in the dark & bangs their leg hard walking back inside. Small cut, big bruise! Alex moves it out of the walkway. Alex doesn't blame Kelly for the accident and admits to not looking before walking; but since Kelly insists on keeping patio light off, asks Kelly to move it out of the way when not in use. Kelly says ok but be more careful.

This happens 3 more times over the next few days. Each time ending in Alex moving it aside & a gentle reminder for Kelly to please move it before coming inside. Alex comments on the worsening pain as time goes on & is limping some now. Kelly shows minimal concern or help. The 3rd time, Alex is very frustrated and confronts Kelly more harshly. Kelly agrees to put more thought into remembering but Alex should really learn to walk around the area to avoid another accident.

Two weeks Kelly just hasn't used the stool so it couldn't be accidentally left out again. Alex's leg has swollen & bruised up alarmingly bad. A quarter sized blood clot is ballooned out of Alex's calf, requiring blood thinners.

One night the couple is outside together again and Kelly uses the stool. Just like before its left out & Alex kicks it falling inside with intense pain crying out for Kelly's soothing. Kelly asserts "if you can't learn to look where you're going then I guess I'll just have to throw it away". Alex says its unfair to force guilt like that. "Either my fault you have to trash your footrest or its my fault i got hurt again when I'm the only one moving it aside and you keep moving it back and forgetting". Alex suggests finding a way so the stool more visible like glowing tape or using the patio light. Kelly refuses, rules it trash, & both stay upset the rest of the day...

Who is right?

I don’t like it. I understand he doesn’t want to hurt my feelings. But most times I prefer honesty. I was having bad breakouts and my boyfriend kept downplaying it telling me I looked beautiful in his eyes no matter what 🥺. But his friend was blunt🤣🤣🤣 and told me I needed to see a doctor. Which I knew and I did and now my face feels great. My confidence higher. And we were talking and I told him that if I look big he can just be blunt about it. Well without being rude just be honest. And I know he knewwww about how bad my acne was he just didn’t want to make me feel worse which I understand. But sometimes honesty especially from the right people not said to spite you helps serve as your motivation to do better and improve 🥰

Marry someone unfaithful

I have a huge problem with him and is that he has no dreams, no goals in life besides things related to his hobbies, and he has no interest in self-improvement.

He has a decent paying job but he hates it. There’s no goals of where he wants to be in 5-years. He just wants to keep this job because he can easily slack off. There is also no interest in working hard or hustling for money. He doesn’t even want to make more money. Not interested in becoming a manager or advance in his career. He just wants more free time for his hobby.

He doesn’t think not having any goals is a problem. I think he lacks motivation in life and mainly he is just lazy. One thing I really dislike was how he went to confide in a friend of this issue. His friend told him that this is absolutely normal to not wanting more or have goals in life. That was all it took for him to confirmed he shouldn’t have motivations. Your friend would not tell you that you are not normal. I see that his friend is actually very motivated to better himself! In my opinion, it is not healthy to not have any motivation in life. It really frustrates me because he just wanted to hear what he wanted to hear and that’s that. In fact, he came back to me explaining that it’s a cultural difference problem. And that it is only my family culture where we hustle and always looking to improve ourselves and expanding our income.

Guys, how will you react if your girl tells you that she doesn't want to work and instead wants to be a housewife, stay at home and spend time with your kids? And she wants to cook for you and take care of the house instead.