Single Guys, do you ever think that women in your mind are better than women in real life and that all you're doing is chasing a fantasy?

[MCheetah]

I think a lot of us modern men under 40 become disillusioned with women, and frankly, get fed up with their stupid sh*t, nagging, and selfishness. In our teens and twenties, we often imagine women being kind, supporting, sweet, always there and by your side, pure bliss in the bedroom, and sticking by you, no matter what.

But by the time you reach your thirties, or maybe even before that, you come to the realization that women are just people, and most people are assholes who only care about themselves and will quickly throw you under the bus to save their own asses. But unlike men, women are never held accountable for anything, so get to continue being selfish assholes without consequence.

This is why even in 2022, a man is only seen as being as valuable as his resources. It's never about personality. Aside from cockiness and ego, that is; literally the only "personality trait" that matters with (most) women. Aside from that, you're only as good to a woman as what material possessions you can provide to her.

This isn't to say I hate women. I hate humanity in general! Men and women equally! But do any of you other men ever come to the realization that what you always thought of women, relationships, love, female companionship, etc, to be, was actually just an illusion and that in reality, most women are just a giant pain in the ass and occasional sexual release every now and then? Essentially, love isn't real.

I dunno; I just kinda need to vent today. People suck and I'm fed up pretending like they don't.

Yes, what we imagine women being in our minds, tends to be better than actual women and relationships.

No, I prefer real women and all their drama and selfishness over the imaginary ideal women we think of in our heads.

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74% is a hell of a lot more than I thought I'd see. I thought I'd be 40-60.

[NewsReader]

Excellent post. I don't think this is true only for single men. There is always room for an upgrade. No one is ever perfect. We can all imagine changes would make if we could. It's normal for all living beings.

Your description of how my thoughts about women transitioned over time is accurate. I think it's because the younger we are the more unrealistic our expectations are. We create the perfect 10/10 woman in our mind. And if our parents told us how our wife will be this sweet princess doing everything we want, that drives our unrealistic expectations even further. Eventually women become more independent and totally out of line with what we expected. We have to downgrade significantly just to get a woman. And some will leave the mating or dating market completely. I don't remember what my original expectations were but they definitely followed the pattern I mentioned. I want to stay single forever. And no, I don't hate all women. I only hate the ones who are left wing and want to destroy men.

[ChiTown33]

My family is comprised of mostly women. So I know good women exist. I think that's part of my curse/advantage (kind of depends how you want to look at it). I know what a QUALITY woman looks and acts like. That's why I'm confident in saying probably about 80% of women are not relationship material. I DON'T BLAME THEM for how they are. I'm just not going to tolerate that level of toxicity. Life is too short to be unhappy. 😉🙂👍

[TheUniqueOne96]

Yeah.

I've never been with anyone before anyway, but I definitely think about a perfect relationship all the time.

The reality is though, no matter how beautiful someone may be physically, man or woman, they aren't perfect.

A lot of us fall into a trap, I feel and think that due to them passing the looks test, we associate perfect behaviour, personality, compatibility and just basically perfection with them.

[MCheetah]

The Halo Effect

[TheUniqueOne96]

Yep.

[Adam1978]

Obviously a fantasy is always better than reality. This is however more of a problem on womenside than men, we have fewer and more realistic demands than women. So our fantasy or expectations isn't as far from reality as theirs.

[Fuentes]

I think of most women the same way I Imagine them most of them a waste a time & a good nut & nothing to be serious with & I care more about money then a women in a relationship.

[KrakenAttackin]

I did for many years until I fundamentally absorbed what women really are. Women are at least as flawed as any man and they certainly are not the chaste, elegant, kindly, honest, being I was told they were when growing up.

[RealMarek]

In my case, I would say this has been true or false depending on the woman. I ended up with a woman who, whatever imperfections she has, is way better than any woman I ever imagined.

[JesseJayNeak]

Living in fantasy won’t hide you from reality. Of course fantasy is better but we guys seek reality