Polls: Relationships

It might involve sexual things or it might not and I’d be clear about my intentions from the beginning. Not that long ago he said something that implied he’d date me if he could. That combined with a long flirtatious and semi-romantic history between us and the way I’ve seen him look at me and act with me makes me believe there’s a good chance he’d be with me.

REASONS I FEEL IT MIGHT BE A GOOD IDEA:

• My mom and I saw a movie in which a woman decided to be with a guy despite knowing he’s going to die. My mom said it’s not about how long the connection lasts, it’s about how deep it is. That made me feel like maybe it’s worth experiencing a relationship with my friend even though my ultimate goal is to find someone else.

• A part of me feels like life is short, and I should live in the moment as long it’s not something unsafe.

• I’m afraid that if I don’t take my chance while I have it, I’ll never know for the rest of my life how it feels to truly be with him romantically.

• I want him so badly it sometimes drives me crazy.

• A part of me feels like the reasons for not being with him don’t really matter when I want him so badly.

REASONS I FEEL IT MIGHT BE A BAD IDEA:

• I’ve never had a first kiss or date before and a part of me wants to save those things for a guy I feel more romantic about.

• I’m afraid I won’t be able to not compare the way my future fiancé touches me with the way my friend would touch me.

• A part of me hopes to lose my virginity to someone I’m more deeply in love with.

• Since I’m uncertain about the situation, a part of me feels like a ‘better safe than sorry’ approach is best.

Do you get narcissistic traits for a while whilst healing from narcissistic abuse? I’m really confused whether I’m the problem or he is.

Secure

People with this style feel safe and confident in their relationships. They can share feelings with others, seek support, and have good self-esteem.

Avoidant

People with this style prioritize independence over emotional intimacy. They may have difficulty trusting others and building long-term relationships.

Anxious

People with this style crave intimacy and love. They may have a hard time being single, but may experience fear of rejection and jealousy in relationships.

Disorganized

People with this style may have intense fear and difficulty controlling their emotions. They may feel they don't deserve love or closeness in relationships.



I feel I am the anxious type.

Do you feel closer to your partner when you’re both fxcking or talking?

There are things that will benefit us more than men and other things that's more suitable for the man. Putting aside your own feelings and going for what's more beneficial for other gender (prefering their happiness over your own, even over your own safe zone) is actually a sacrifice, since you're placing someone else's needs and happiness even at the cost of losing yourself. You know you won't win much but you don't care at that moment and give in anyway.

Nowadays which gender does that the most, men or women? I think it's women now. Several long-term relationships are ending in break-ups and the woman ends up sad her time and years were wasted for nothing. She gave most of her prime years (her market value) and lost. Then she'll just be another forgotten past ex girlfriend. Sometimes that very same man finds someone else and forms a family with her within 2 years or less, much less than the time that woman gave away for nothing. She didn't benefit from that.