Polls: Relationships

Okay so last week I was supposed to meet my boyfriend at the pub to watch a band, but instead he texted me saying he was swimming which I thought okay, wish you’d have told me earlier but have fun. And then tonight I didn’t mean to but over heard a conversation and found out he took his best friend and stood me up for her.
I don't know what to do. If I should say something cuz I wasn’t supposed to know.

While book-smarts or street-smarts help a person in specific ways, Emotional Intelligence is what we use most in the real world -- it's the mindfulness, awareness and processing ability we have for both our feelings and the feelings of others.

Current research indicates that those with higher levels of EI draw others towards them... They're people who others genuinely want to be around for the long haul -- at work/school/relationships. Their kindness and compassion towards others shine through their EI, as does their ability to own up to their own decisions (instead of blaming them on others) and to treat others with respect and dignity.

Here 's a quick 20-point quiz for you guys and gals -- the most common signs of EI

(+1 for each point you "sort of understand" and +2 for each point you're really good at):

• Being able to know and accept yourself for who you are (with all your quirks and experiences)...
• Being able to accept responsibility for your actions and decisions...
• Being able to accept change as a standard part of life...
• Being able to control emotions rather than raging and lashing out and flying off the handle with verbal/physical outbursts...
• Being able to forgive yourself -- to show yourself some grace -- by leaving past mistakes in the past...
• Being able to talk through problems and challenges with others...
• Being aware of your own strengths -- and being able to admit to them...
• Being aware of your own weaknesses -- and being able to admit to them...
• Being modestly confident and poised -- and keeping your cool in challenging situations...
• Showing empathy and compassion -- putting yourself in another person’s shoes and seeing things from their perspective...

The scoring goes by 5s (see the poll, which keeps answers anonymous). Don't share your score in comments if you don't want to.

(Those with a low score wondering how to raise EI can search Google for free materials that are very helpful.)

Are there certain conditions under which a man and a woman can be friends successfully? Can it be done without one being hurt?

Why or why not? What do you think?

Surprisingly men have also done that for ages. More women baby-trap but this is an example of a man doing this, even after the woman didn't want kids:

https://atlantic.ctvnews.ca/man-convicted-for-poking-holes-in-condoms-loses-appeal-1.1099713

Is it worse if a man deliberately gets us pregnant without our consent (he wants the baby, it's his plan) than if the woman babytraps him without consent. What's worse? Both of them are doing something in common, bringing a baby without their partner's consent.

... and are you happy?

If you decide to give them a second chance even though they didn't even confess, is it only fair to cheat back?

If you had to find out through texts, someone else, overheard then over the phone or worse walk in on them with the other person but decide to forgive and stay, can cheating back be more understood? Even justified.

If that cheater is forgiven, is it fair to cheat back? If so they have to forgive (return the same favor) you too since they got forgiven right? Otherwise they would be hypocrites if they didn't forgive.