Would you stand someone up?

[Anonymous]

Okay so last week I was supposed to meet my boyfriend at the pub to watch a band, but instead he texted me saying he was swimming which I thought okay, wish you’d have told me earlier but have fun. And then tonight I didn’t mean to but over heard a conversation and found out he took his best friend and stood me up for her.
I don't know what to do. If I should say something cuz I wasn’t supposed to know.

Yes

No

[nawtee_me]

Unless you are going to be a panzie all of your life you need to say something. He just cheated on you and stood you up in the process. It doesn’t matter how you found out but the one thing that is certain is that he lied to you about it, stood you up and cheated on you by being with another girl.

[nawtee_me]

Thanks for the MHO

[RingOfFire]

That's an end of the relationship move. That crosses the line of disrespect and I agree with another comment I just read that the appropriate responses to break up. There is nothing a woman could say to make me change my mind if she did that to me.

[kylee2437]

Yeah no, if my boyfriend did this to me especially it being a female friend, we are breaking up. This is sincerely why people are insecure when their significant other has an opposite gender friend. Opposite gender friends should not be prioritized if you want to keep a good relationship going.

[Anonymous]

No that’s rude and inconsiderate of their time. I at least would’ve been honest about why I have no choice but to bail on them, but would never do it last minute unless it was an emergency… He clearly values his best friend over you and I think you need to call him out on it.

[AI Opinion]

Navigating the stormy seas of love and trust, aren’t we? 😏 Here's the scoop: whether you stumbled upon this info accidentally or by being a little sneaky (we've all been there), it's vital! Your feelings are valid, and keeping this bottled up is like shaking a soda can—you know it’s going to explode eventually. My advice? Approach him calmly and honestly. Share your feelings and ask for his perspective. Remember, a relationship is a two-player game; it thrives on honesty and open communication. Who knows? This could be a misstep or a red flag waving in your romance. Either way, it’s better to face it head-on than to let it simmer. Keep it cool, keep it honest, and let's hope this can be a building block rather than a stumbling block in your relationship! 😉

[PointlessNonsenseGuy]

Shut up, Love Doctor Brad.

[TommyMountainFigure]

Do you want to know how to get a guy to respect you? Because clearly the one you are with does not

Leave him. No reasons, no excuses, just go and get yourself someone else. But next time make him aware that if he has no respect for you, you're gone!

I certainly wouldn't stand for it being treated like that!

[Keyboardkat]

No, I would NEVER stand someone up, except in the most dire emergency! That is the height of disrespect. Even if you have to go on a date and you're convinced it isn't going to go anywhere, you don't do that. You keep your word, and you treat the other person with respect, as you would want to be treated! Remember, what you put out there, comes back to you one way or another!

[PointlessNonsenseGuy]

Your boyfriend is lying to you, and letting you sit alone in a bar while he enjoys himself.

He's not honest and he doesn't respect you.

Also, he doesn't seem to value you, or enjoy spending time with you.

Dump him.

[dustybiker2]

Uh, yeah. I would confront that I found out. Replaced and lied. Have a nice life.

[Asker]

Thanks

[WhitneySnow]

That’s awful. You should confront him about it. And no, I would never stand anyone up.

[DishLady]

No but I’d stand up TO someone, which is what you should be doing. Dump this idiot.

[Anonymous]

That would be a break up immediately because no. That level of disrespect is a clear sign this is not your person. You partner should respect you and make you a priority. Dump him.

[PeachyPie93]

Dump him. I wouldn't even tell him why, just do it.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Get rid of him, you deserve better.

[Alex-Snow]

I have never done that nor do I plan to

[Anonymous]

Ignore hikm and move over , he doesn't respect you and mokst likely cheated

[thatshydork]

Only assholes stand people up.

[FunkyMonkee]

Not intentionally.

[Asker]

What wasn’t?

[FunkyMonkee]

Standing someone up.
For instance, at one point, I was in two bands at the same time and, one night, we both had a gig on the same night about 12 miles away from each other. The plan was that I'd play the gig with the first band and then get a ride over to where the second band was playing so I could play that gig. After the first gig, I was so wound up over playing that gig I completely forgot about the 2nd gig until it was too late. They fired me.

[DarkLegacy]

If a better offer came up then yes.

[Iron_Man]

no, I don’t do that

[sirderpsalot123]

I wouldn't