Is it just me or do religious people have a harder time taking accountability?

[Anonymous]

There are so many situations that I can point out, but I’ll just focus on 2.

Situation #1: I used to be friends with a guy named John. He, his wife, and some of the people in the friend group were Seventh-day Adventist (SDA), while others were either agnostic or non-practicing Christians. I stopped hanging out with John because he wouldn’t respect boundaries and when I’d confront him, he’d always use God to justify his stances. Since I pulled the plug on the friendship 3 months ago, only 2 people have reached out to me to keep in touch. One was agnostic and the other was a non-practicing Christian. These 2 people seem more Christian than John who won’t apologize or change his ways. None of the SDA people seem to care that I’m not around either. There was a time before that I stopped hanging with the group and one SDA person blamed me and said to “remember that John loves you”. These people are sick.

Scenario #2: I once dated a woman that was Methodist. She was bragging about her past experiences, but wanted to remain abstinent with me. I tried to maintain healthy boundaries with her, but she kept pushing me to the edge. I told her to just go all the way and she said no and that I need to be stronger. She refused to apologize.

I just don’t get it. Religious people have moral codes, you’d think they’d follow them instead of twisting them to their own benefit. I think I just need to focus on non-religious friends and dating partners.

[Anonymous]

Only religious people I’ve met have been seriously fucked up, had a girlfriend once, who’s dad was super Christian, they were millionaire rich people, so you’d expect the run of the mill rich people family, but she told me her dad used to hide in her closet when she was little and burst out and beat her with a belt if she did something bad. Like I get discipline, but to wait sometimes hours then hide in her closet and burst out and beat her with a belt? Another girlfriend I had, also super Christian family, her dad molested her, and actually fell asleep after “finishing” naked in her bed, when she was 11, and her mom found them in the bed naked, and she didn’t leave him or really even care, so religious people from my experience tend to be weirdos who use their religion as a mask to hide their weird deviant actions.

[strateguy632]

That is a falde accusation. Due to accountability we turn to god.

But atheist say "we did nothing wrong"... how is that for accountability!

[236color]

I knew a woman in the Navy who was from Florida. She told me a story once about when she was stationed at Great Lakes Illinois in the winter. She needed a winter coat to wear when not in uniform. So she went out to the mall and found one she really liked, but it was more money than she intended to spend. She said, "I asked God and he said it was OK". Now she was single, had no children to support, housing, food and medical were covered by the Navy. If she spent every dime she had, she could live in the barracks and eat in the mess hall till the next pay day and effect nobody but herself. Why did God have to be used to justify this situation? She wasn't buying crack, she was buying a winter coat in a cold climate. This wasn't a potential sin if God didn't sign off. She couldn't even take responsibility for buying herself a nice coat. Religion is about control.

[LiamJHayden]

Real ones should not, but then there are a lot who call themselves that whose actions show otherwise. It's sort of like the on-the-street interviews with these average people claiming they are 10's. Claiming something does not make it reality.

[DrPepper12]

Yes. Yes they do. Its better to ask forgiveness than permission is what they live. Its all a scam anyway...

[genericname85]

well it's hard to take responsibility if you're delusional and hold things to be true that aren't evidently true or evidently untrue.