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I've broken up with him because he is manipulative and so toxic. he lied to me for months and i forgave but this time he did some shit again like saying he will kill himself if i left him bcs his life will be meaningless without me. we're like in our 20s and just wtf

i admit i gave him false hopes before bcs i was unsure of my feelings since we're living far away and i can't decide what i feel about him because i want to see the closure in real time not just through our phones.

we're not talking for almost 2 months and his bday is soon. still miss him as my friend but i hate the traumas he gave. good memories but not worth the pain he gave.

context:
i’ve been friends with this guy for about 5 years, i was attracted to him as soon as he transferred to my school but he hadn’t noticed me. The same day he transferred a few others had too, his future girlfriend and i became friends that same year as well.

Throughout that year i really didn’t have any close friends and she didn’t either so i felt like we kinda leaned on each other and we were inseparable. The 2 people dated for a year until the girl left for another country and they spent about 4 more years dating long distance. They were a big deal at my school, everyone shipped them and they had accounts together. They broke up 2 months ago.

The thing is that the guy is now interested in me (i have a spy on the inside that has told me so) and i don’t know what to do. I’m attracted to him but then there’s also this past relationship with the girl. Even though the girl and I don’t actively talk at all and to be honest i didn’t really like her before, we were still friends and she still talks to me when it’s my birthday, my grad, tells me she misses me and just basic catching up things. I don’t know what to do!