My ex is struggling? Should I reach out?

[Anonymous]

My ex ended things with me because he’s going through a lot at the moment. He’s having a difficult time with his personal life (a majority of these problems stem from his own insecurities and immaturity). He’s told me twice now about how he’s having a tough time.

Should I reach out and ask if he’s doing okay? I do miss him and want to get back together with him.

Ever since breaking up, I’ve reached out twice - the first time to ask when I could get my things and the second to say happy birthday.

[ohshee]

I like you you have a very beautiful heart you're very good person and I know that you mean well.
There are some struggles in life, and sometimes we could use a helping hand but I believe his struggle is one that he needs to do on his own because of self-doubt if you have somebody pulling you up all the time. You become dependent on it you expected. This is his centercore this is who he is his identity is his self worth it's right in front of him he needs to be more confident and accept it and deal with it is that easy quit thinking what other people are thinking or might be thinking it's doesn't even matter who cares the only thing that matters is what he thinks when you're going through something that he is going through it's not that he's going through it is how he handles it is what makes him bounce out of it and he's the only one that can do that. You know the old saying it's not how you fall down it's how you get back up it's the same thing and if you're pulling him up. Then he is not believing in himself

[Interstate]

He needs to deal with whatever it is he is going through. Give him his space, and when he feels he is ready, he will reach back out to you. Either he will say he is ready, or he feels the two of you split up is in his best interest. In either case, if you keep trying to contact him, you stand the chance of suffocating him, and he will never return. Just back off for now and see what happens. In the meantime, just keep going with your life and whatever happens happens.

[Xoxocutekitty]

No definitely not.

In a healthy relationship, you are able to get over your own pity party enough to ask for support. The ability to have someone help out and serve you/the relationship should inspire you to feel better to be better, and want to reciprocate in the future.

When someone cuts you off, it means, no I'm not going to give you a chance to support me. You don't make me feel better. So don't shove yourself in someone life, they won't appreciate you for what you do for them and that creates resentment later on.

[Hallo626262]

You don't know anything about the situation.

[TikiTook]

I think it’s really sweet and empathetic of you to think of him but I think as long as he knows you are there for him (if you’ve told him this and he knows he can reach you) I would give him space. Also it depends when you last reached out? Like was it just a week ago? A few days? A month ago? I think if enough time has passed then there is no harm in reaching out. Overall trust your gut with these things. You seem empathetic so I think you can sense what his needs are right now too, so trust your instinct :)

[Michael49]

Can you reach out to one of his buddies or family members and express your concerns to them. Ask them to maybe stop by his place and tell him you were worried about him. If you reach out to him I guarantee he will ask u to come over and not sure thats a good idea

[RasberrySlushPuppy]

you shouldn't be waiting for him to feel better, look for another person. In the meantime he might contact or not.

[Anonymous]

Don't do it yet. Some guys just want to be left alone during really difficult times. Give it a week then try again. If he's still being resistant, stubborn, and immature then you've done all you can do. You obviously want to reach out.

[LivingExample]

There is Nothing wrong with reaching out to someone that is struggling no matter who they are!

[MrJMM]

Even though I would like to help people ex’s see the ones that to be left behind... So. Fuck no!

[jimmy2]

Cry me a river everyone has problems in this Pandemic

[Catto_lover]

Maybe you shuld try. Well sometimes people need some help when handling tough things.

[mvpverona]

Just pray for him.

[Starwitch23]

No. No. No.

[Pterodon]

Fuck no

[Anonymous]

Let him Rot

[Opinion Owner]

What there something I said? 🤷🏻‍♂️

[nogirfrienknowlove]

Yes.