me and my ex have been broken up since Oct 2008. after the breakup we didn't speak for months .. but now in 2009 summer .. he's been reaching out trying see how I'm doing via text or video chat ..i saw him once while I was in L.A.last Sept 2009 but why..? it never goes further than that and it p*sses me off and it gets confusing .. and as of 2010 he still tries to reach out telling me about his new house he bought .. Like I care ... and I forever will deny him as a Facebook friend, and he keep requesting me like once a month... just recently I drunk texted him saying I love him.. and I still honestly do love him , and he said he loved me back ... but last night I got a text from him at like 5am saying "..." and I replied with "...?" and then he says .. "i miss you and I want to see You right now !" .which is impossible because I live out of state .so I decided to call him today .. we spoke for like 10mins nice causal talk seeing how each other was doing ... and that's it. But what's really the deal with this back and forth and he knows I hate it I told him before that its too hard for me to be his friend since were in a relationship before you just can't go back to friend zone ! ... I love him I would def want to be back with him .. but why all this pointless reaching out that never goes to the next step.
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Really, does it matter why he's doing it? Is there any explanation that will make sense to you and make it okay for him to treat you in a way that you hate? He's being disrespectful, but the problem is that he's being "nice" disrespectful... I'm sorry, but texting you at 5am, repeatedly sending you friend requests even though you deny them, and telling you he misses you when there's no possibility of seeing you are all DISRESPECTFUL because he's ignoring the fact that he's stringing you along, confusing you and making you doubt yourself. It's possible you're still "in love" with him because he won't just leave you alone and let you get over him. You said so yourself that none of this actually means he has changed, wants to get back together or has anything to offer you. Don't let him weaken you with random proclamations and phone calls that are ultimately just hot air.0