She messaged me randomly a few weeks ago, was actually pretty talkative, and it felt a lot like how we used to get on when we were together. We ended up messaging for a few hours, and she seemed like she was open to reconnecting and catching up. (On the surface as friends. But I think mores going on)
At a point she opened up that she hid her alcoholism from me during the relationship and is mentally unwell (Supposedly no one knows about the issues other than me)
And did mention her current boyfriend, but is pretty obviously not happy with him and is on her last ropes with him.
Some other stuff was said about what we've been upto and stuff, but at the end did say her boyfriend found out about me and wasn't happy, and removed me again the following morning.
(We did agree we wouldn't talk anymore if one of us ended up in a relationship, but seems like thats not really a thing now)
I guess it can be breadcrumbing, but I really doubt it based off what I know of her from the past and how we spoke this past time
At a point she opened up that she hid her alcoholism from me during the relationship and is mentally unwell (Supposedly no one knows about the issues other than me)
And did mention her current boyfriend, but is pretty obviously not happy with him and is on her last ropes with him.
Some other stuff was said about what we've been upto and stuff, but at the end did say her boyfriend found out about me and wasn't happy, and removed me again the following morning.
(We did agree we wouldn't talk anymore if one of us ended up in a relationship, but seems like thats not really a thing now)
I guess it can be breadcrumbing, but I really doubt it based off what I know of her from the past and how we spoke this past time
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She might just wanna reconnect as friends
Maybe, but I don't think it would have stayed that way, especially considering how she's seemingly unhappy with her rebound boyfriend.
Maybe. But just cause she doesn’t like him doesn’t mean she still likes you that way.
That is true, its not a given, but she has explicitly made posts about missing me, missing my support and how I'd make time for her.
I think it may have faded a bit, but not completely gone, and if we properly talk again it may very well become more again.
Good luck. I hope you guys get back together.
I hope so too, but we both have our own respective issues to deal with so may be for the best if it’s later rather than sooner, just so we can try for a healthier relationship this time
She does also go through cycles of blocking and unblocking em despite not talking.
Well, if you’re curious, she did reach out again last night. This time asking if I’m ok following the shooting in the subway earlier in the week. Plus apologizing for reaching out, and saying that I can block her. Along with thanking me for my support.
That’s really sweet 😊
Yea, she did say she was worried about me and is glad I'm safe. But also mentioned she's really upset, but not seeming like she wants to say much about it just yet, so I don't know with her. But I think part of it is her missing me and my support, but yea, weird
Good luck
Thanks. I definitely care about her a lot, and obviously she does. But my current thinking is that subconsciously she knows that her current boyfriend ain't good, and that I was more supportive and she was better off with me, but consciously is unable to make the leap to leave him and accept that I will be there for her. (If that makes sense)
That makes sense
Yea, especially since she was concerned about my safety after the shooting. And does seem to find comfort in talking to me. But does apologize for disturbing my peace and healing, and says its OK to block her. Lets see what happens. But it did suck when I drove through her area this past week and I started getting emotional as fuck
I hope you guys get back together
I hope so too, and honestly, I feel its pretty likely, but is it the best outcome? Especially given our respective issues? Probably not. but I know I'll gladly run head first into another relationship with her if it happened
As long as you guys have feelings for each other that’s enough to try again
Yea, I guess so. But the same issues may creep up again if we jump into it so soon. But seems like feelings definitely are still there for both of us
So a slight update. She messaged me again. This time seeming sad and not accepting of the fact that I do care and all. And said that she feels like she's doing me a favor by ending things (or well that she did me a favor)
Plus made post that imply that 1) she's reminiscing about us (posted about stuff I got her) and that 2) her current partner probably ruined the idea of relationships for her.
Were messaging sti though so I don't know
Sounds like she’s done
I think she's definitely done with her new guy. But is struggling with me, considering how she seems all over the place. But considering her probably bpd, it ain't all that surprising
I mean, going to your ex for support rather than family, friends or current boyfriend?
Reminiscing over gifts I’ve gotten them? Outright admitting she was worried about me following the shooting?
Posting in the not to distant past about missing me, my support and how I’d make time for them? Stuff like that makes me feel like she does want me back.
But then you got stuff about her being done with relationships, that I deserve better, that she did me a favor, and similar shit.
Feels like she’s struggling on what she wants to do with me…
I think you’re right. She’s definitely struggling. Maybe give her some space to figure out what she wants?
I mean, I'm not messaging her first right now. Only responding when she does and reiterating that I will always be there to support her and what not. Only time will tell, but it hurts seeing her in such a bad way
Now messaged about catching up again. Wonder how it'll pan out this time
So, another update. We called, spoke for a couple hours. She revealed that she left her rebound. And she did say "babe" when I mentioned something, but said to ignore it. And said she's not for a relationship now. (in my opinion, she revealed she has feels still, but definitely isn't in a position to go for anything yet. But given "babe" I won't write it off. Especially since were talking again)
That’s promising
Definitely. I mean, calling me babe shows she still has feelings for me. But its gonna have to take time to go that way again, as she made it known that she ain't looking for anything atm
Don’t push her too hard
I know, I am not. I made it known I was sad a missed her when I drove through the area, and that maybe in the future we may go that way again. But im happy just being friends again and hearing her voice
Awesome
Yep, only time will tell. but Im optimistic, especially since she called me babe and all. But only time will tell.
What do you think now?
Not sure. Just be patient and be friends with her for now.
Naturally. Im glad to just have her back in my life.
Well, she revealed just how much she hates her ex now. And seems like she's realizing that the relationship is on him being a lousy fuckup of a partner. And not cause of her not deserving love. But yea, she made me hate him too with her descriptors
Horny Bitch…