Girls, Whats the reason for my babymothers behavior?

[Anonymous]

Me and my ex after 7yrs in a relationship had our first child may 2020, but we broke up a couple months after, but around October she moved on to another relationship, well I'll say around my daughter's first birthday I got a random message from a lady which I figured was a fake profile created by my ex even though she denied it, me and her had not had contact since November last year, and she told me she was in a happy relationship, well fast forward to may she text me from this profile saying that she missed me, that she was pregnant and the baby was due in Sept of 2021, and I reminded her several times she needs to work it out with this guy because it would be wrong for her to do his child what's she's doing to minds,. Obviously she didn't like being told that, she said how he's a POS, which I don't believe, and I told her that the only reason she's talking to me now and sending pics of my daughter was because he's gone, and when I told her that she blocked me. But when we first broke up and I felt like I didn't wanna try to fix it and since she was putting up roadblocks for me to see my daughter I just blocked her, but she told me that I'm so childish and immature and that I will never change, I just wanna see my daughter and even though I had no contact with my daughter couldn't even get a picture, when I birthday came around I still sent gifts, my ex obviously still loves this guy's and hates that I called her out on it, why can't she just let me be in my daughters life

[Anonymous]

Why not take her to court? She shouldn’t get to pick and choose when you have access to your own child and her failing relationship is none of your concern. You should’ve have to council her or deal with all the “I miss and want you back” ridiculousness that seems to be one of the terms to receiving anything regarding your kid.

[Asker]

I'm working on the child support stuff, I even got some nasty messages she sent me when she found out about the child support, she said I was taking it too far, but if putting myself on child support is my only way to see my daughter then so be it

[Opinion Owner]

**shouldn't have to, not should’ve🙈 but I think it’s great that you’re taking the steps to take her to court. Sucks that it has to come to that but it is what it is..

[Asker]

I dont wanna put my daughter through this, because I'm not going to be the only one hurt from all of this, she is too, which is another reason why I hold off on doing this sometimes, but I don't think I should have to forfeit being in my childs life just because her mom is mad about a failed relationship with someone else

[Opinion Owner]

Honestly she’s so small, this won’t hurt her the way it would if she were older. Tbh she probably won’t even understand, at hardly a year old. It’s good you’re doing this now, so that you can create a new normal and help her adjust to it, rather than any toxicity that would come from a back and forth situation with her mom. It’ll be an adjustment but definitely worth it..