Denying him a baby hurts him?

[Anonymous]

i told a man i’m not going to have a baby with him because i’ll end up a single mom on welfare and he completely changed after that. also i was 18 with no job and he was 36. i didn’t see how any of us would’ve been a fit parent. he didn’t have a real job and was very secretive. he kept bringing up what i said about not having the baby everyday after that, calling me broke all the time. pointing out everything i don’t have (money, material things, breast implants, light skin) and putting it in my face that his ex is godly and mature enough to want a baby. he also kept shaming me and calling me childish for putting off having a baby because i was grown already saying that other girls just listen and make the baby when s man says and get public assistance, but i’m demonic and think i’m too good. he kept doing and saying things to belittle me after that. leaving me stood up, yelling after sex, spiteful stuff, infecting me, etc.
did it hurt his feelings?

[DarkLegacy]

It obviously did hurt his feelings. It sounds like you pulling in different directions, and you are young to be having a baby in the modern world. If you do not want a child at all and he does, that could be the end of the relationship. This is because wanting children is a big thing and is natural. However you do not want to end up a single Mum on benefits.

[Asker]

i told him when we first met that i didn’t want to have a baby and he said it was ok. plus he had kids already.

[DarkLegacy]

Was not in the question

[CriticalCatDad]

The fact that you're getting with someone so much older than you is your own fault.


Also any woman denying her man who wants to be a father a baby would hurt him. How could it not?

[Asker]

i told him from before we started a relationship that i wasn’t going to have a baby ever and he said that it was fine as long as he had me it was ok. i guess he thought that he was going to change my mind. i put everything out beforehand to prevent any hard feelings. he still chose it.

[MsProsperity]

Oh no girl, you should care about yourself not him. He’s verbally abusing you

[DarkLegacy]

Same applies for him

[MsProsperity]

Are you insane? She was 18 with no job

[DarkLegacy]

Oh well

[LazerBean]

I hope so. Why would you be with garbage like that?

[gorydetails]

Sounds like you suck at picking men.