My boyfriend is forcing me to abort my baby?

[Anonymous]

I’m 3 months pregnant with this guy. I get it, we only met 5 months ago so we known each other not long at all. But I’m attatched to my baby, my heart KNOWS it’s the right thing to keep it. I know deep down it’s the right thing to do, well I know there’s no right or wrong but I know deep down that it’s what my heart wants. I’m 22 and he is 26 and I already know I will HATE him if I listen. He’s threatning to leave me if I don’t abort it and that he will hate me and never talk to me or see me ever again and that he will despise me if I keep it and try too coke and see my family and that he’s gonna kill himself. He’s calling me selfish saying it’s up to him not to me. I don’t want to get rid of it then one day wake up realise one day ‘wait I got rid of MY baby for a horrible person’ he already cheats on me. He also abused his ex girlfriend and got her into hospital. My dream was to have a family with someone who was also ready for but I guess it just didn’t happen. I don’t NEED his support I have so much support around me and I’m stable but he keeps threatening me, what do I do? Will I regret it if I was just considering this to please him since he’s making me feel bad for him. Apart from him being horrible I have no reason I want to get rid of it.

[Anonymous]

It is never okay for someone to force you to make a decision about your body or your pregnancy. It is important that you make the decision that is right for you and your future. If you feel like keeping the baby is the right decision for you, then you should do that.

It is concerning that your boyfriend is threatening to leave you, hate you, and kill himself if you do not have an abortion. This is not a healthy or safe way to treat someone, and it is important that you prioritize your own safety and well-being.

You should seek support from trusted friends, family members, or a professional counselor who can help you navigate this situation and make the best decision for yourself and your future. It is important to remember that you have a right to make decisions about your own body and your own future, and no one should try to take that away from you or pressure you into doing something you don't want to do.

If you feel unsafe or threatened by your boyfriend, it may be important to consider ending the relationship and seeking protection or support from local authorities or organizations that can help you stay safe.

[Cupido29]

I'm against the argument "my body my choice". We're talking about another body inside your body, that is under the responsability of both of you. I think that for an abortion both sides (if the sex was consensual) should agree.
I think you should keep the baby. It will be objectively difficult to find another man who will accept the presence of your child, because "single mothers" give a bad first impression; it is a symptom of irresponsibility (and they don't want to be responsible for other people's children), even if I see that you are responsible in particular. Make him understand that to have an abortion you need both consent, and that you're ready to raise the child even on your own, if he doesn't want to. Try to help him for real, if he really wants to kill himself (maybe it's even just an excuse), but still don't be intimidated by his blackmail. Raising the child is the right choice, in my opinion, but it will be very difficult; you need the help of your family, and be open to finding another partner early on

[SecretsofKB]

It is your body, your choice. He has no say in it. And contact the police if you feel threatened. It is your safety here.

[Anonymous]

You are a grown woman nobody can force you to do anything

[ZackBan]

So a cheater, an abuser, a trash tier human being got you pregnant and you want your child to have his genetics?
I would personally say no to both.

But end of the day he can't REALLY stop you from having the kid (unless he harms you in some way).

But I wouldn't expect fatherhood from him and kids raised by single moms don't have the best track record.

You're stuck between a rock and hard place here, none of your choices is a good one for you or the baby but you will have to know all the facts before you chose

[abc3643]

You keep your baby.
I am not some pro-life anti-abortion nutjob. I believe in choice.
And this is the right choice for you.
You know it.
If you did get an abortion, you would be haunted by it the rest of your life.
So don't.

If he can't deal with it, then that's his problem.

If you can't stand the heat, get out of the kitchen.
If you can't stand the risk, get out of the pussy.

[abc3643]

Let him leave you!
Then you will likely get sole custody... and you can still demand child support.

[Shamalien]

Why the fuck do girls reward asshole men with sex then complain when they are assholes? Seriously…he already cheats on you and you stay? Keep the baby and give it up for adoption

[nawtee_me]

No he is not. You can leave him, the break up is going to happen after you abort so just leave him and have the baby.

[Jamie05rhs]

Two things:

1. Have the baby.

2. Dump the boyfriend. (He's trash.)

[mark000h]

Abort him and keep your baby.

[slatyb]

Let him leave. Then file for support.

[IHateBeingaMan]

he is not right for you

[Tstrbrainer]

Did he knew you were not on birth control?

[WanderingLoveWizard]

Let him kill himself

[Jmmmfi4]

What a mess