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Is this what many men do? Give up authentic parts of who you are and your personality just so you have a real chance with the women to end up in a relationship or marriage? Altering yourself like that by destroying who you really are to not being truly yourself just so you have a relationship, marriage and or kids? Is not getting a relationship or marriage or the end of your bloodline thanks to you being your true self really so much worse than being with a woman loving you being your fake self and risk getting divorced and becoming a pay slave for when either she finds out you're not who she thought you are or you fall apart from imitating like that?

And before you say "What is this Nonsense? Men don't do that" what if i told you there are men, that don't show you that they've sacrificed parts of who they are as much as they don't show feelings? Point being you are probably unaware, that some men gave up parts of their personality and who they are and are actively putting up an impressive facade version of "manly man" of themselves for you girls. Anything just to be in a relationship or marriage or not risking the end of their bloodline.

You make an explicit rule per the law... teen step daughter with temporary drivers license can only drive car you own/insure when another adult is in the car. It's the law in this state.

The rule is communicated and understood, but is violated. You give notice this is not allowed... don't do that again ever! Ok!

The rule is violated again a month later, under permission of your spouse whom gave permission. There was no emergency, just a desire to drive, and the teen driver asks (forgets or doesn't care) as well decides it's ok to violate the rule (oops)... and drives by themselves. "It's only a short distance" would be the justification. "It's not a big deal".

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Probability of being caught by police or accident is small... driver has lots of experience and cautious. However, they are hormonally off (PMSing... and historically, judgement is off at this time) and there is a dangerous intersection involved in the well known, 1 mile drive home.

Severity of punishment resulting from an accident is substantial. You face cost or jail...

A) Insurance will fight coverage in case of accident... since the teen was violating the law, they can wiggle out of paying in court... cost shifts to the owner of the car (you) and parent... if teen was at fault.

B) If teen is at fault in an accident and death/multi party occurred, the responsibility shifts to owner of the car (you) and parent. Owner of car (you) could face prison time. I'm not a lawyer, it's my understanding of the law... and it's a liberal state.

What should a good, responsible spouse do in this case?

How do you handle your spouse that disobeyed the rule... putting you at risk you don't want?

How do you handle your step child?

Welcome to being an adult, and real life...

I saw this video and it was about in a rural village how people have expectations of you but in a city you can be anonymous and do whatever you like as long as you're not comitting crimes or being too annoying like waking your neighbors at night.

Do you think this is why a lot of people struggle with socialising and connection today? Because they're not willing to integrate themselves into a situation where other people have a say on what they think is right and wrong for them to do.

I was born in the city but lived in the countryside for 3 years. It was definitely an interesting experience. I think most of the people were nice but it was also difficult because they knew each other since birth and I was a new person and also I don't know I think I wasn't really ready for the ammount of social work it would take to fully integrate myself there.

I actually felt happy and like I was back home when I came back to Zürich. Even though I met new people and made new friends there's just a familiarity with how things are done here and I don't feel like I'm out of place or so.

I am putting more and more focus on socializing and I think it's going well but I still found it interesting this concept because I definitely feel like city people put a lot of importance on freedom and not being tied down and that comes into conflict with building a tight community.

I think I will keep changing my priorities over time but I also enjoy the city. There's a lot of nice things about it. We'll see how it goes :)

This might just be me but i really like it when a person is so real around me that they are not afraid to reveal they’re insecure or vulnerable about things. Makes me see their humanity come out and allows me to empathize with them more. I also tend to respect people who aren’t afraid of showing them either.

Examples can include: dudes expressing more emotions than they usually do and aren’t shy with them, people getting emotional over movies or tv shows, unafraid of admitting their vices, people admitting what they’re afraid of, general faults they know they have. Just things that might open them up to judgement by people but not caring if people do judge them if that makes sense.

now it doesn’t mean they shouldn’t work on them and try to improve but in general i just like people being themselves completely around me.

To say there is no problem with heavy drugs in America and most of Europe would be a denial of reality. You have fentanyl killing a record high number of Americans and in decriminalized areas like The Netherlands you see the degragading effects on society with homelessness and needles laying around the parks and on the streets. You also see this on the west coast and other places in America.

Then you have places like Singapore where the drug problem seems relatively controlled if you're willing to stomach it when it's your loved one who gets the long sentence or hanged if they happen to be caught drug smuggling. Seems like many of the ones who end up being executed are people from the west and from the perspective of the native of these countries the harsh penalties are not so difficult to bare, especially when the lawbreakers come to your country and add to the problem for residents to bare when the punishments are well known to those willing to risk it. No amount of money could possibly be worth dying over. A person might find these penalties to be distasteful or even amoral, admittedly while I do not fall into this camp I at least have sympathy towards that way of thinking.

Well these people might say that penalties and the payoff are rarely considered by the people who end up being caught, at least not before the crime is committed. They'd argue other reasons find them in this nightmarish situation of being caught and finding yourself facing a death sentence for doing something that in the west might not result in more jail time than a year with a good attorney. Or possibly none at all.

It almost seems too fantastical to imagine a livable place where people are allowed the freedom to decide whether to do or not do the drugs in a society where people practice a true form of freedom. Consequences for using such things would be the effects of the drugs themselves which can far outweigh any other considerations.