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I’ve been seeing a girl for about a month now. We planned a night together, but she told me she was seeing friends beforehand. So I told her I’d meet her there and we’d go from there.

Her side: You arrived with your friend thinking we weren’t going any longer. Her and her friend helped me get into this event and I didn’t even thank them. Apparently I didn’t even say hi to her. I was playing the cool guy card with my friend and was walking around doing my own thing instead of being with her. “When you come with someone you stay with them”. Not long after at the bar upset at me giving her no attention and when I came up to talk to her it was the worst timing possible because she was eating and that’s a sacred time/bad convo time. I left and she claims I was planing to do that the whole night and not stay there. And lastly I didn’t come back to her place to stay over even though yesterday that was the plan! And I didn’t even reach out to her the day after when she thought I would.

My side: Came with my friend cuz it’s a group thing, she said ok over text. She sent us used tickets from her friend so I went in before and came to say hi to everyone while also worried cuz my bud wasn’t. Said thanks to her friend for the ticket and she’s chill. I’m 99% sure I said hi to her within the group at first and if not that’s my bad. Asked her about going the next event solo and she said no and going home early. Gave her the alternative for next weekend, can chill and enjoy the night. She was chatting with friends and I didn’t wanna intrude with my bud so I let her be. Id come up to her in small groups and she’d walk away after. My friend and I started doing our own thing sensing the vibe. She was pissed at the bar talking with her friend, when solo I asked if she wanted to come by my buds birthday briefly and she said no. Not long after I put my hand on her and she removed it in front of someone, then I said my goodbyes. Finally, not going to sleep over when vibes are horrible!

I’m 27, a vegan, and I’ve never had a serious long-term relationship. I’m a vegan because I grew up in a conservative Seventh-day Adventist (SDA) Christian household. Long, story short, SDAs, especially more conservative ones believe in a prophetess named Ellen G. White and she has a health message where she encourages believers to be vegan and not drink coffee. My parents imparted these ways on me. I’ve tried eating meat here and there, but it’s rarely tasted good or I’m slow at eating it.

The one short-term relationship that I’ve had was with a fellow vegan in the church, but on the 2nd date she ate my food and she never showed me any affection (we never held hands or kissed).

Other girls in the church either had more liberal parents that let them eat meat, or they want a guy that’s not in church, or they want some extremely long courtship process and have ridiculously high standards.

My parents projected a lot onto me growing up. They wanted me to be this superstar academically and stressed education. I never went to any SDA schools because my parents thought their education standards were too low. Part of me regrets not going to one because I feel like I could’ve met a girl who’d like me. But now at my church, there’s barely any girls.

When I look outside on dating apps like Hinge & Bumble, I rarely get matches and dates, but when I do it’s like they can sense something’s wrong with me. For instance, I went on a date with a girl and ordered a chicken pasta out of fear of being rejected for ordering something vegan. I didn’t finish it and she thought that was weird. She ghosted me after the date.

Even had a friend in church recommend her friend outside of church to me. We had a lot in common from liking the same basketball players and teams to traveling to different countries. But she said she doesn’t date any kind of vegetarian.

I feel so behind socially and hopeless. My parents say I’m suffering for Christ so it’s ok. I think that’s a load of crap.