I don’t understand this. Men want freedom no girlfriend no wife. But why do men get married? Why men r living daily with girl and following her daily doing errands , sleeping together? Eating , meeting families etc,? Isn’t that being clingy? Spending bdays with each other , trips, fmaily holidays together, isn’t that being clingy and men can’t have freedom if they do all this stuff with girl?
Wanting freedom and disliking clinginess doesn't mean rejecting relationships entirely. Doing things together, dedicating time/energy to one another, etc isn't clingy or restrictive, it's two people who enjoy spending time together, well... spending time together. Clingy/lacking freedom is when the girl needs to know where he is 24/7, wants all of his free time dedicated to her, etc. Freedom, when it's not being used as an excuse to cheat or be noncommittal, is more about having the opportunity to choose to spend time with the girl, rather than his presence being taken for granted. So with that in mind, of course lots of guys still want relationships.
I would see ex boyfriend one time a week or less and he would call me clingy 😞
Meanwhile I see all girls living with bfs daily together 24/7 n why those men don’t call girl clingy? Even men r shoping at market with girl and I’m alone iv never had a guy want be with me all the time or go shop at the market with me and live with me
No that’s not being clingy. If she makes you happy, you’re more than happy yourself as a man to do all these things w her. If she’s constantly nagging you, starting arguments, fighting w you, then yes you don’t want to be around her as much. Many men would love to get married but nowadays many women aren’t worth it. Just as I’m sure there’s men who aren’t worth it.
With my ex boyfriend we would jsut meet one time a week or sometimes ever other week only and he would call me clingy. 😞 I knew him for many many years. N I dumped him
Cuz he don’t want meet family or hve baby. No pics together with me. If he want act like a free single guy then he deserve be alone. I only complained after so long being quiet and being unhappy.
Even one point we spent 2 months not meeting and he would make cousin priority and only go to trips with him to far far places and do nothing with me.
So obviously I need to complain n nag at that point n ends things.
Because he most likely was just using you for sex. If a girl brings a man happiness, she’s feminine, doesn’t bring drama to the relationship he’s going to love her more assuming he’s interested in her for the long run. Because a girl may say I did all that but in your situation he wasn’t interested in you for a relationship. Men will change for that right woman, you weren’t it u fortunately. I love hanging out w my girl, especially if it’s things like a first time experience for the both of us. For example, I’m excited about is going to Oregon in a September. Neither of us has been. She’s not clingy.
No I think if you complain, nag, you’re going to drive him further away. If that’s what you want then find someone who is going to want to do those things w you. If you have to force him, twist his arm, is he really doing it cause he wants to? Or because you complained about it?
Like I said I only complained after so long of being unhappy quiet , all girls get many bfs n they all meet her family fast. No girl has to nag n complain about it after 2-3 years.
I don’t get it cuz all girls have sex with bfs. U can’t have a relationship without sex , all girls have babies n u need sex to have babies. So I don’t get it why those men aren’t using girlfriend for sex too?
All I wanted was meet family like a normal boyfriend n spend Christmas with a boyfriend and his family , trips with a boyfriend. Meeting family don’t mean u will marry. In fact girls get a boyfriend at the age of 15 n they meet parents
Girls get many bfs every year n all those men meet parents then they break up.
I’ll be 26 n cud never get one damn boyfriend that can meet parents.
I knew him for 8 years
We would do everything together many years. He would give me gifts , text me daily. I thought someone that wanted use u for sex would leave u on the first day u guys have sex n disapear
So I’m not trying to attack you but can you honestly say you’re 100% not at fault for some things? Would you say you’re cute? I feel like there’s some type of masculine energy there from you.
What u think I’m at fault for? By staying quiet 2-3 years n neevr meeting family for 3 years? I can’t date him 4-10 years more n we never meet family. All girls meet bfs family
Cute? I know some men marry fucking ugly girls with face of a man. So I ain’t ugly
Wdym masculine energy
See to me your responses tell me you get mad quick. I could be reading this wrong as there’s no way of knowing how you’re expressing this if you responded to me in person w the answers you wrote. You sound resentful, like you’re mad at men. I didn’t ask about other women and them being ugly. I asked about you, but you chose to jump all over that. Again that tells me you had temper issues. Rather than say I think I’m descent or sure I meet a lot of men you started saying other women are ugly. I almost feel like not asking what your family was like because you’re going to get defensive rather than stepping outside your head looking at it from a different point of view.
I’m nice and spent 3 years silent & not meeting family so now I had to speak up and ex boyfriend would blow up n get mad n he deny meet family. He makes cousin his priority and stopped seeing me for 2 months. I felt like single girl no boyfriend no partner.
My parents r divorced. My brother is married neevr was single his whole life. Everyone in my family have bfs gfs and they all meet family. My family r all religious and r all married have kids and serious bfs whole life except for me
I’m average I’m not a tall hot super model.
I was born with a baby voice very squeaky ugly voice ,
I look so young I don’t look. 26 I look 18
But I got it from my mom, she doesn’t look her age at all.
What’s your mom like? Are you like her? What’s her view on men? My apologies for all the questions. The men you’ve been interested in if you think about it after the fact were they all pretty much the same?
Well they looked the same but since I was 13 no guy ever liked me back. My classmate best friend at age 13 didn’t like me back and ran away from me wen he found out I liked him. Then wen I was 17 in highscool my crush didn’t like me back. Then at 18 a guy at job and I did connect and we’re friends and we went on one date but soon after he left the job to join the navy and had met a girl before meeting me. So she won him as her boyfriend. Then at 19 I met boyfriend and he pursued me and I knew him 8 years and we dated 3 years but never met family. N he didn’t want baby either n he wanted his future old traveling alone n I wanted my future with a partner living together and have kids. And that day he brought up the topic of future and wen we broke up it was same time a new crush appeared at my job
But I haven’t been able to speak to this new crush as he works in other area and it’s been hard be able to talk to him
Anyways , my entire family all have perfect life they were never single spent age 18 to 30 with same boyfriend the gris y guy they loved married her and have many kids and perfect life rich and I’m the only one alone no boyfriend no kids nothing at age 26 and counting
My mom is also alone n she had bad luck she was beaten by my dad and had horribel love life. She’s divorced now.
She does have a lot of men like her cuz she has thick body but since I was born skinny men find me ugly. I have a baby face and very skinny body. I’m not thick like my mom. And I have a baby vocie and I can’t do surgery to change my voice
All girls had bfs at age 15,17,18,19,20,21,23,24,35, n I never really had a serious boyfriend. I guess only at age 23-25 I had that boyfriend but never met family or anything serious that all bfs do like meet family live together get pregnant by accident n trips together no
Are you the youngest? Do you think your views on relationships come from her? Is she resentful to men? Doesn’t like them or think they’re all bad. Do you think this new crush may like you? If so maybe you should try to talk to him.
I’m sure there’s someone out there who would be interested in you. Not all men like the same type of women figure wise. Where do you meet these men? Maybe change up the area where you usually meet these men to some place new.
Yes I’m the youngest. Well a lot of men love my mom but I don't know if she resents them. 🤔 she can’t get a boyfriend either like me. We can’t find anyone that wants a partner/ girlfriend.
It’s extremely hard find a guy that wants a girlfriend no guy wants a girlfriend all men only want sex I don’t have 100 men asking to be my girlfriend and meeting my family no. That’s y I’m alone. So I don't know y all girls at the stores all magically get perfect guy and pregnant and kids and guy shopping next to her for food. I don’t understand
Is your mom feminine? Or is she argumentative a lot? Feels like she don’t need a man to get by in life? Do you think you and your mom are similar? If so then maybe why she can’t find a man is possibly the same reason you can’t. When it comes to sex is that something you’re willing to have in the beginning or would rather wait for later down the road? If so how far down the road?
I don't know what u mean by feminine? I don’t arugue a lot. I told u i waited 3 years and never met Bfs fmaily so that’s y I had to finally speak up and break up with him.
U said a guy will use you for sex So y u r talking about sex now?
Wha tod I have sex fast and again guy don’t meet my family? And we neevr do anything serious?
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My family supposivly preach if u never hav sex with ur boyfriend he’ll marry u fast that’s y my entire family r all Married fast cuz they don’t have sex with guy and he love her
I can’t find a boyfriend cuz men don’t want gfs. Men only want sex and no guys wants to meet family. That’s y I have no boyfriend
I Need a man to get by in life but since no guy wants be my boyfriend I’m sad alone have to do everything alone sad be independent cuz no guy wants be my boyfriend 😞
Have you tried meeting someone older? I don’t think that men don’t want girlfriends, a lot of us do, we also want marriage but nowadays a lot of women aren’t worth it. I mean feminine, like she dresses like a female, cooks, she’s nice, she doesn’t bring drama to her partner. Sure disagreements always happen but is she an argumentative type? I think your relationships w men are based on her and how she is w her relationship or lack thereof w men. Especially considering you were the youngest. I don’t know how long your father was w your mother but maybe everyone else had a better view of what a relationship wa supposed to be like that’s why they’re in successful relationships as you say.
I’m feminine I cook clean nice drama free. I told u I was queit for 3 years and we never family so I had speak up to boyfriend and he go crazy blow up and deny meet fmaily so we break up.
3 years is too long to not meet family. I can’t find any men that want gfs no guys want gfs. It’s impossible. I can’t can’t find any guys that wants gfs all men only want sex and not meet family. I can’t find men that want gfs
boyfriend was older 32 n he want be single free no baby no marriage not meet family nothing
I dress in pretty sexy dresses and heels and earrings im feminine.
My parents were together long time but dad used drugs and beat my mom. So my mom
Had unhappy love life
The reason I don’t have a boyfriend is cuz men don’t want a girlfriend that’s y I’m
Alone. The issue is not me it’s cuz men don’t want a girlfriend they only want sex so I’m alone while my whole family all have perfect bfs and husbands and they spend holidays together trips meeting families and sex and have many kids and I can’t find a partner like them.
No guy wants a girlfriend. It’s impossible find a guy that wants a girlfriend and relationship be normal boyfriend meeting family.
That’s y I’m single. Cuz men don’t want gfs.
You ever talk to your mom about this? Again I think a big part of you having problems is based on what you seen as far as your mom. As I mentioned a lot of men want relationships. Sadly too a lot of them aren’t good looking but would try to give you the world if they could. But because they’re not good liking most women aren’t going to pay attention to them. What have your ex boyfriends been like? All similar? Similar to your dad? Maybe he’s a part of the reason why you find men like this as well. Men who don’t seem to be good at all
On dating apps all men say they don’t want gfs. So i have no boyfriend. No men want meet family. Be a normal boyfriend dating u spending time with ur mom n holdiays, pics , . Men only want sex and no one wants a relationship no girlfriend.
I neevr find any men that say they want a girlfriend.
Only that ex boyfriend was my boyfriend that’s it. My whole life I neevr had more bfs.
My whole life men reject me. That’s y I’m scared why god brought this new crush at my job for me to be heartbroken again? Or happy and he’s my friend and boyfriend in future and I’m blissful in love?
I just daydream at age 26 of a guy meeting my fmaily, taking couple pics with me, going to trips with me, living with me, it’s all a fantasy in my head. I’ve neevr experienced any of that. I’m ready do all that but no guy I like wants be my boyfriend and pursues me. I’m alone n no one cares to make me a taken woman.
What does my dad have to do with me finding bfs?
I understand being scared but you’ll never know unless you try. Even so after all the pain, once you met that special person it will all be worth it. That pain will seem as though it never existed. May I ask why race you are? Have you tried dating outside of your race? I don’t think one bad experience is enough to say that all men don’t want relationships. I know my brother, he’s 26, having a hard time finding someone who’s worth being w. Like I said men do w at relationships, just not a lot of women who are worth it.
I don’t find no man that tells me that they want girlfriend I’m
Just telling u what men tell me. On dating apps all men say they don’t want a girlfriend.
It’s been one month and I’m having a hard time to finally talk to crush. It’s long story
Well a lot of women tend to end up w men who are like their fathers. So if all you see was an abusive asshole, your mom put up w it all these years than chances are you’ll do the same because those were two very important people in your life who you looked up to for a lot of guidance in life. So maybe that’s why you kept white for that many years because that’s what your mom did till she finally got tired of it and divorced. At the same time if he wasn’t around you never had an idea of what a real, good man is supposed to be like so you just let things happen because you have no idea of what things should be like when it comes to men.
What type of men do you go after? Would you say you’re ok dating someone who isn’t that good looking or are you after men who are handsome, cute, the type most women tend to go for?
Why is it hard? Because you’re scared of what may happen? What’s the story?
I neevr liked another guy more than my ex boyfriend and I thought dating many years was love or a serious relationship. I end things til now cuz we talk of future n he want be free til he’s old travel n no baby no partner. Also we neevr meet family so I end things. Also the guy I like more than ex boyfriend is my crush. And crush appear at my job during the time me n ex boyfriend break up.
Well my crush happeend to work in front of me at my job 3 days. But that time I didn’t like him yet. I just looked at him a lot and thought stuff in my head like wow y he’s so serious? Y he has a mask on? Y he’s so quiet? Oh he has a lot of curly hair lol. Y he looks mad?
Then after those days passed I began like him. But the last time I saw him working near me was the 4th time. That day I was working and then felt someone looking at me and I turned and it was crush but he quickly looked at the floor. Then afar that I no longer see him at job. I begin seeing him from my car him walking to the bus or home I don't know. Few times I see him walking farther in front of me and I can’t catch up.
Then I see he gets a new bike.
Then last week I wanted try finally talk to him for the first time but I can’t as we both work part time and our schedule is one where u can choose work any time any day u want. Day or nite shift. So last week he worked all week nite shift
So this week I’m trying talk to him finally once n for all but today I saw 10 bikes at job but wen I left job at 6:05 all bikes were gone. I assume he left at 6pm or 6:02pm fast? Work ends at 6pm so I missed him I guess.
So it’s literally been hard talk to crush once and for all. And it’s a month now since we worked together.
I see. Do you think he likes you? Why do you only work part-time? You live at home still?
I live alone. I don’t like working full time lol
So how are you paying for everything w a part-time job?
Well i work almost full time hours. But it’s still considered part time. I don’t have bills just rent and my phone
We aren’t talking about my crush lol
I know. But I ask because some men may wonder about that. Maybe it’s a turn off to them. Are you in the United States?
Crush works part time too lol
But does he do other things on the side to make money? Is he going to school?
I don't know we haven’t talked yet not friends yet
I plan resume my business again wen I move out in October. I used to sell clothes
When you move out? I thought you said you were living on your own?
Yes I’m moving out soon. U didn’t give me any advice on crush and how I feel there’s a wall not letting me talk to crush finally.
Well you’re just going to have to make it happen if you like him that much to try to run into him. There’s no way of communicating w him at work? Maybe work a full week one week to increase your chances of seeing him. Are you ok w approaching him or do you feel he should do that as the man?
I think he might be shy. So I have to do it. I worked today and will work tomorw Thursday to Monday. But I’m depresed so I have no motivation talk to him Thursday if I see his bike outside.
Why are you depressed? Wouldn’t this be motivation to want to talk to him?
Cuz it’s been one month trying talk to him. Feels like a wall not letting me talk to him finally
I see. Just have to keep trying. You don’t ride a bike to work? Maybe trying meeting him that way. Have you tried looking him on social media?
I don’t know his name I don’t use social media. I’m depresed so today Thursday I have no interest try talk to him I just wana work n fucking leave. Of how depresed i am n try Friday to Sunday
It just feels like I’ll never speak to him ever. It’s weird cuz god put crush in front of me 3 days and at same time I break up with boyfriend. God put crush in my life for heartbreak again? Me sad miserable? Suffer? Or to bless me n he’s my work friend n boyfriend soon?
Fun fact I met ex boyfriend at a job I used to have
So maybe try meeting someone outside of work? What is your ethnic background? Maybe you already told me but didn’t see it.
I told u it’s rare for me to like. A guy. I like crush at job. Period. Crush is the guy I finally like more than ex boyfriend. He finally show up. It’s crush.
I seem to have good luck at jobs meeting guys. I can’t meet guys outside of work I go to the market and stores daily alone and all girls r with bfs and babies. I’m only one alone
I’m Hispanic.
I feel god put crush in my life for a reason like u break up with boyfriend but crush will be ur new boyfriend.
I love Hispanic women. Very cute, a lot of culture. I’m surprised no man has picked you up. Sorry I’m biased when it comes to Hispanic women I think they’re the best
I shop alone at the stores while all women have a boyfriend next to her 24/7
I’m gunna need shop in a mini dress at the market now 😂😂 while all girls r shopping with her boyfriend and babies
So everyone know I’m single lonely no man
But I like crush. Crush is the guy I like more than boyfriend. I’ve never liked a guy ever than boyfriend
Crush stole my heart
He has similar traits apparence wise from boyfriend. Dark brown hair curly , wears beanie, skinny , might be shy n reserved. I like nerdy humble guys I don’t like stuck up cocky loud social guys
I see. So do what you need to do to get their attention? I mean in a nice sexy way, don’t be like a lot of girls these days. You probably have a cute accent as well. Your crush, do you know if he’s white, Hispanic?
I don't know he look white but has dark brown hair
So you e never talked to him at all?
Didn’t u read my story? I’m trying to talk to him !!!
For one month
Lol yes I read it. It was more like a really damn you have not talked to him yet surprise. I know you haven’t talked to him. What about co-workers? Anyone you can ask about him?
He don’t really have much friends. He is shy covers face wkth mask. He’s not loud guy screaming walking all day with friends or groups. He walks alone. Like me.
Everyone at my. Job walks all day at job with a friend or in a group or with their boyfriend girlfriend
Me n him r alone lol
Both fucking shy
So if he’s alone all the time then talk to him. You sound like you don’t want this bad enough
That’s y I cried today it’s one month I still can’t talk to him, I did have the chance talk to him on the 8th I saw him alone outside after job ended n I missed chance go up to him. 😞
I’m sure there will be other chances. You need to find a way to increase those chances. There’s no directory on your company email that shows everyone’s pic w their email?
Lol no
Today Thursday I cud have a chance but I’m Depresed it’s 4am can’t sleep n I work today. I didn’t work Sunday to Tuesday as I had wisdom tooth taken out
Ik god gave me crush for reason same time I broke up with boyfriend it’s not a coincidence
So are you going to go in? What time do you start?
Because not all guys want ultimate freedom. Some want to create something of long-term worth. Not all guys think women are complicated and clingy but there are still quite a few guys that want to have family they are just not the loud voices on social media.
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Who said that all men wants freedom? Or such freedom? I prefer to be married and live a happy life with my future housewife on being single and free cause there is no such as 100% freedom whether you're single or married...
One woman will always be enough for me!
Ex boyfriend tell me he want freedom no partner
That's his choice, not all men's choice...
He wants to play and don't want to be in a serious relationship, he's just player seeking only for games and one night stands...
That’s y I break up with him
You did the right thing so you won't be hurt later...
I’ve never liked a guy more than ex boyfriend and crush is finally the guy I like more than ex boyfriend. I’ve never liked a new guy since 8 years.
Most men want marriage and relationships. You just think that they because you only see the players who are out fucking the majority of the women and thus have no incentive to settle down. The average men who are invisible to you would want a relationship.
Marriage is a trade of for men. We're trading the possibility of sexual variety for frequency. Men get angry when the feel like they're not getting either. Now as for "clingy", not sure what they mean by that.
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