We've been together for almost a year now. Recently a girl expressed her admiration for him and it confused him. We discussed the pros and cons of our relationship and rethought. I told him to go for her. Yes, we've very little chances of marrying each other. However, he turned her down, I think, out of the guilt of being with me.
However, after that he has been distant and gloomy. I can understand the sadness in his tone, he's no more interested to talk to me - in short he's avoiding me. This guilt is eating me alive, I feel so bad for expressing the disapproval that my tone had when he told me about her proposal. But it's true he gave me only few hours, probably if we had a day, we could make things clearer. I feel like I've ruined their life, not let them be together. They could marry each other. And I'm not as good as that girl, she's pretty, smart, talented and I'm plain and immature. But he has turned her down, there's no way of going back now.
I don't have any friends, I don't know who to talk with and lessen this burden. What should I do now?
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You shouldn't blame yourself for your partner's decision or the resulting effects. You were simply expressing how you felt in the moment, and he was the one who made the choice to not pursue a relationship with the other woman. It's possible that other factors might have also been at play in his decision-making process, so try not to take all the responsibility upon yourself.
It might help to talk to your partner or a trusted friend about your feelings, and make sure to take some time for self-care. It can be difficult to navigate relationships and make decisions, but try to take things one step at a time.
For goodness sake, stop tormenting him. He chose - YOU, didn't he?
Well he confessed that they made out before the rejection part. I just came to know.
Just one of many consequences of casual dating. Either move on and be happy or dump him now.