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Most of us have been through a break up and later felt an urge to reconcile. Often, that happens because of loneliness ("a bad relationship is better than no relationship") and, unless it was a horribly destructive relationship, many of us tend to forget or minimize the bad aspects of the relationship. We want to bring back the good times and we just don't think about the bad times that went along with the good times.

If you are considering reconciling with an ex, the prevailing wisdom is "don't do it!" (unless your break up was caused by something that did not reflect on the quality of the relationship, like you started college and were 800 miles apart for four years.) Is the prevailing wisdom right? Is it a bad idea? What was your experience if you ever tried to reconcile with an ex?