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For context, my brother has been dating his girlfriend, P, for two years. I absolutely adore P—she’s like the sister I never had. Long before they began dating, however, I met her brother, T. He and I are in the same grade, only about six months apart in age.

I first met T in seventh grade, when he was still a bit of a “geeky” guy. By the middle of eighth grade, I had my first boyfriend and met P for the first time around Thanksgiving. Back in seventh grade, I had a small crush on T, but it was nothing I ever considered acting on.

During freshman year, T and I had science together and started talking occasionally. I began to realize I still liked him. As our siblings grew closer, so did we. Whenever we passed each other in the hallways, we would exchange smiles—he has the cutest dimples when he smiles.

By the end of freshman year, I wanted to ask for his number, but I was too nervous. He was talking to someone at the time, and I didn’t want to overstep boundaries; if I were in that girl’s position, I wouldn’t want him giving out his number to other girls.

I hadn’t seen him for about three months until today, when we had back-to-school night. He was there with a friend, and he smiled at me like no time had passed. Later, he came over to my house because he, my brother, and P were going to the lake. When I saw him, my heart skipped several beats. I tried to keep my cool, distracting myself by making cookies and watching a show.

I don’t know if he’s dating or talking to anyone. If he’s not, I’m wondering if I should ask for his number and get to know him better. Before pursuing anything, I would make sure P was comfortable with it, because the last thing I’d want is to betray her trust or cross a boundary in our friendship.

In an argument he said take a long look in the mirror at it and you’ll see how bad it really is. Said it was saggy and wrinkly and bad big

I should probably say I’m not overweight at all. I’m a size xxs a uk size 4 so American size 0 I do have a really big bum. Like the size of somerrays but it’s not a fit worked for bum. It’s natural so is a “big fat ass” and does have cellulite.

But always said it was amazing and big fat ass and he loved it.

He also said the only thing that saves it is when I’m in doggy position or in leggings because it hides how bad it is.

After a while he said he just said those things to be nasty and he actually does love it etc but when he compliments me mainly it’s in leggings and says omg your bum looks so good in them and can’t get over how good my bum looks.

Was he telling the truth in anger or just to hurt me?

Who has ever unknowingly initiated a rebound relationship? Maybe as a way to move on or get over a previous ex? How long did the rebound is and when did you realise you were in one?