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They always say abuse and cheating are the two major deal-breakers in the relationship, that those two are relationship killers.

How about others things? Would these things also be just as devastating as abuse and infidelity?

- Scamming you and using you for money too; never paying your money back

- Lying for years about their real age because they knew you wouldn't have dated them; you were young and wanted to date someone close to your age range. They told you they're 22 at the time but was really 32.

- Faking a whole relationship (even the initial friendship too), future faking and them purpose making you believe you're have a family one day

- Realizing everything was a lie, you were cheated out of a life

So I have dated very few people and only really thought of it after knowing them a long time ‘& only by the time I was already falling in love or already IN love, tho still was not ready for a relationship and even ambivalent about just dating. I have never ever dated to experience & learn better how to date- dating was only after thought to my interest in a specific person.

it occurred to me that this can be very problematic. If you very rarely like anyone I think you can have a false- positive impression of their character. Just bc I’m so very rarely interested in someone this does not mean that anyone I AM interested in os necessarily good for me as a person/ partner or is even a good person at all.

And ultimately in my opinion experience is crucial. Every train wreck I’ve encountered on romantic scenarios was not due to anyone being evil but bc I had no clue WTF I was doing bc I was not used to caring about someone that I was also “into”. And I was extremely uncomfortable dealing with certain inevitable vulnerability etc plus brain freeze 😂

Anyhow , I think in interest of self development & interpersonal capability , I should consider dating as part of regular life & not a rare artifact that maybe I’ll encounter in a lifetime.

Now, when I say date I mean meeting you getting acquainted. I do not mean hook ups or vetting people for whatever agenda. Just getting to know people in a romantic contexts.

Of course I’ll be upfront so no one’s tine will be wasted if they are expecting sex or something heavily physical quickly. I’m Audi not interested in anyone paying for anything so no one is getting explored with no return.

Would it bother you to be asked out by someone who wasn’t blown away by you but was open to getting to know you?

Hi there i’m sophie and my sister is fleur. we’re just sharing this account lol.

Fleur:

Right so my friends keep telling me different things about my friend. and i’m getting mixed feelings. he’s quite shy so he might not just be telling anyone how he actually feels but i’m not sure lol.

- He told person A that he wouldn’t say no if i asked him

- told person B that he liked me as a friend

-When someone asked him hypothetically does he like me he said yes

-He is constantly flirty teasing me about stuff

-He is always buying me icecream or paying for days out.

- he was my prom date

- apparently on a school trip he was asked by a couple of people about me and he said just friends.

yeah so i’m not sure. kinda mixed reactions huh? Anywayyyy anyone who can help me figure this out then help😭😭😭😭

In this story some man's girlfriend didn't accept his proposal for these reasons:

Finding out it was a real proposal and seeing the proof was the only reason she came back. She's putting things on hold at this moment, wants me to keep the ring and ask again in a year from now. She'll make a final decision by then. If she's ready sooner, she'll tell me to ask again but for the meantime only refer to her as my girlfriend.

She can't accept it now due to my past pranking history and carefree attitude. She pointed out that a month before the hurtful proposal prank that made her feel insecured in the relationship, I've made jokes about having Covid too (faking coughing) and acted inconsiderate towards others, had a history of sometimes being late to our dates, sometimes delay on paying some bills and doing things at the last minute even when I had enough time. Meanwhile I've stopped doing pranks and improving, she said I need to change more before she considers marriage. I admit, I was unpunctual with my last bill last month. Lastly, she doesn't really care about the ring nor the cost but thought my proposal was lame and it lacked creativity and enthusiasm, as if I wasn't even trying. She couldn't understand why I was creative with the fake proposal but couldn't do the same with the real proposal, put more effort into it.

She doesn't want to marry him. She's postponing things. He pranked a proposal once and hurt her but when he did it for real, she wasn't excited anymore.