You ask a girl out and she says that coffee is something she would do if she was running an errand and she's not an errand. So she insist that if your serious of taking her out on a date that you take her to dinner and of course your paying for the whole thing; because equality.
Take her to the dumpster where she belongs. I'm sorry but that sounds just like she wants a free dinner and/or she's a gold digger. If you dont know the person, why would you spend so much on them?
Like, ma'am, who are you to demand anything more from someone you don't know? You're not May calamawy or anything, BEGONE 😌
Just leave lol, they have no life and already too much expectations from someone they don’t even know, it’s just plain entitlement… plus it sounds like such a rigid behavior, not everyone has time to spend hours and hours in a restaurant, if I like someone I’d be v happy to meet him for a coffee
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I'd laugh and walk away.
The fact that ANY man would listen to such drivel is exactly WHY those women think they can make such demands. And any man who gives in deserves the hell that his life will be with her.
Sack up and walk away from such women. I don't care how hot they are, you don't need to be their simp.
I dont find anything wrong with a coffee date. In a way it makes sense if you are only going to meet them for the first time, and dont' want to spend too much money. It makes sense to share coffee with someone for a potential second date, providing you both see that you like one another and you share common interests, etc. Why not? A woman that insists on dinner only, proves that she can be more demanding later on.
You just leave and never look back. If she is demanding that you do that type of stuff in order for her to start to get to know you, then you need to get the hell away from her. A woman who is actually interested in you will not care where you go to on a date, as long as she spends it with you.
I would be happy if she told me that, because then I would know to save the $5 and skip the date altogether. When I was last dating, a couple months ago, I would go on several dates throughout the week... I'm just interviewing them (and vice versa) to see if there is anything potentially there, and there often wasn't; so, why would I want to spend $50-100 each interview, instead of around $10-15?
I have no desire to show off my money, nor waste it.
I'd say where would you like to go? Then say alright sounds good. When do you want to meet? Alright sounds good see there at that time. Talk to you later. Then hang up the phone and delete her number. Let her show up to her dinner date to eat by herself and not take her calls anymore.
I would meet her demands, however, it would be the only time that I willingly submit in that manner. And that man-up personality trait…backbone woukd make itself apparent in dinner. She will undoubtedly be overthinking which guy is real…. Mystery is achieved and second date is likely secured 😎
Fade out like a ghost and never see her again. Entitled chicks don't care about you. A good woman would be okay with everything you ask her in order to spend time with her. A woman who loves you will go hiking for 4 hours with you just to see a beautiful sunrise on a mountain with just you there.
Real love comes from spending time together not from expensive dates. Just weeds out the gold diggers that way if you want to spend meaningful time together.
*Channeling Kevin Samuels*
"You're not the prize, you're the 37 year old on Tik Tok with 15lbs of make up on, fliters to further hide your age, a medicine cabinet full of anti depressants, and a litter box that needs to be cleaned. Wendy's is hiring. *slap* die alone. *TAPS*
if a girl told me she didn't want to spend time with me unless i was buying her an expensive dinner i'd say thank you for letting me know what your priorities are. have a nice life.
Run, hun. Once you Stoop for that Poop (First date should be a wine or coffee to SEE if it s Worth a Second) You will be Standing for what this Bitch is Handing. Tell her Bye, Nice Try. xx
Pull a Tank Turner on her for shits and giggles then never return from the bathroom leaving her hanging with the bill.
But seriously just imagine how outrageously demanding she will become later on if you give in. She will bleed you dry and leave your life in ruins.
If I feel like just buying someone a free dinner I'll take a friend out. Or a homeless person. The purpose of a first date should be to get to know someone in a casual environment. If she insists on a fancy restaurant she's already told me everything about her I need to know.
Making demands like that before a first date?
Hey we have reservations at this very fancy restaurant for 6pm. there's a dress code so wear something nice not like you normally do. I’ll be there to pick you up at 5:30.
Then don’t show up. When she calls, “oh I went out with someone else to get coffee.”
Date someone else. Always remember this, the first date is where people put their best foot forward. This is the nicest that girl is ever going to be. The NICEST. So if she's a needy, entitled, arrogant bitch when you first meet, it ain't going to get any better. Block her number and get on with your life.
I move on to the next one. I don't want to sit at dinner with someone with whom I do not click or worse a food whore and then get stuck kicking down $200 plus afterwards. Coffee or simple meet up for first couple, then if we hit it off, even if just as friends, I'll take her somewhere nice.
I don’t like dates in the first place but, I would ask her “are you going for me or free food? Free food is cool but, it’s not cool to use people”. And then I would probably leave her because I don’t have time for people like that. My cats are way better than that
well coffee is more of a friendzone thing so i think guys should take girls out for a drink or even dinner. You only do that stuff if a girl deserves it tho with good behavior. if she’s acting like a brat saying she deserves like an expensive dinner at a nice restaurant tell her to go fuck herself.
I'd walk away from her, the sense of entitlement of women today is one of the reasons no man wants to date them, the coffee date is a 'get to know you', dinner date comes later, if they cannot deal with that then that is their problem not the men's.
Does this ACTUALLY happen to anyone in real life? Because it sounds like the sort of thing that lots of people complain about in the abstract, but in reality no one's ever actually experienced it.
And if you're REALLY concerned about it, just don't tell her what your date plan is. Tell her it's a surprise and you'll pick her up at whatever o'clock or she should meet you at such and so place at whatever time. Then take her to coffee.
Simples!
These types of women sound very entitled. I wouldn't go out with women like that if I were a man.
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