What would you do if a woman said a coffee date was not good enough to take her out and insist you take her to dinner (you're paying of course)?

Question

You ask a girl out and she says that coffee is something she would do if she was running an errand and she's not an errand. So she insist that if your serious of taking her out on a date that you take her to dinner and of course your paying for the whole thing; because equality.

letuswaltzforthedead · Accepted Answer

Take her to the dumpster where she belongs. I'm sorry but that sounds just like she wants a free dinner and/or she's a gold digger. If you dont know the person, why would you spend so much on them?

Like, ma'am, who are you to demand anything more from someone you don't know? You're not May calamawy or anything, BEGONE 😌

CA4444 · Accepted Answer

Just leave lol, they have no life and already too much expectations from someone they don’t even know, it’s just plain entitlement… plus it sounds like such a rigid behavior, not everyone has time to spend hours and hours in a restaurant, if I like someone I’d be v happy to meet him for a coffee

MrOracle · Answer

I'd laugh and walk away.

The fact that ANY man would listen to such drivel is exactly WHY those women think they can make such demands. And any man who gives in deserves the hell that his life will be with her.

Sack up and walk away from such women. I don't care how hot they are, you don't need to be their simp.

Amy10223 · Answer

I dont find anything wrong with a coffee date. In a way it makes sense if you are only going to meet them for the first time, and dont' want to spend too much money. It makes sense to share coffee with someone for a potential second date, providing you both see that you like one another and you share common interests, etc. Why not? A woman that insists on dinner only, proves that she can be more demanding later on.

JamesDiaz11 · Answer

I would be happy if she told me that, because then I would know to save the $5 and skip the date altogether. When I was last dating, a couple months ago, I would go on several dates throughout the week... I'm just interviewing them (and vice versa) to see if there is anything potentially there, and there often wasn't; so, why would I want to spend $50-100 each interview, instead of around $10-15?

I have no desire to show off my money, nor waste it.

BeMuse · Answer

I'd say where would you like to go? Then say alright sounds good. When do you want to meet? Alright sounds good see there at that time. Talk to you later. Then hang up the phone and delete her number. Let her show up to her dinner date to eat by herself and not take her calls anymore.

Guy13 · Answer

I would meet her demands, however, it would be the only time that I willingly submit in that manner. And that man-up personality trait…backbone woukd make itself apparent in dinner. She will undoubtedly be overthinking which guy is real…. Mystery is achieved and second date is likely secured 😎

RiseofArtemis · Answer

Fade out like a ghost and never see her again. Entitled chicks don't care about you. A good woman would be okay with everything you ask her in order to spend time with her. A woman who loves you will go hiking for 4 hours with you just to see a beautiful sunrise on a mountain with just you there.

Real love comes from spending time together not from expensive dates. Just weeds out the gold diggers that way if you want to spend meaningful time together.

tzdc21 · Answer

You just leave and never look back. If she is demanding that you do that type of stuff in order for her to start to get to know you, then you need to get the hell away from her. A woman who is actually interested in you will not care where you go to on a date, as long as she spends it with you.

demonics · Answer

*Channeling Kevin Samuels*

"You're not the prize, you're the 37 year old on Tik Tok with 15lbs of make up on, fliters to further hide your age, a medicine cabinet full of anti depressants, and a litter box that needs to be cleaned. Wendy's is hiring. *slap* die alone. *TAPS*

jennyPuss · Answer

if a girl told me she didn't want to spend time with me unless i was buying her an expensive dinner i'd say thank you for letting me know what your priorities are. have a nice life.

Paris13 · Answer

Run, hun. Once you Stoop for that Poop (First date should be a wine or coffee to SEE if it s Worth a Second) You will be Standing for what this Bitch is Handing. Tell her Bye, Nice Try. xx

findacure4wokeness · Answer

Pull a Tank Turner on her for shits and giggles then never return from the bathroom leaving her hanging with the bill.

But seriously just imagine how outrageously demanding she will become later on if you give in. She will bleed you dry and leave your life in ruins.

zagor · Answer

If I feel like just buying someone a free dinner I'll take a friend out. Or a homeless person. The purpose of a first date should be to get to know someone in a casual environment. If she insists on a fancy restaurant she's already told me everything about her I need to know.

Googlemyahoo · Answer

Making demands like that before a first date?

Hey we have reservations at this very fancy restaurant for 6pm. there's a dress code so wear something nice not like you normally do. I’ll be there to pick you up at 5:30.

Then don’t show up. When she calls, “oh I went out with someone else to get coffee.”

Kiran_Yagami · Answer

Date someone else. Always remember this, the first date is where people put their best foot forward. This is the nicest that girl is ever going to be. The NICEST. So if she's a needy, entitled, arrogant bitch when you first meet, it ain't going to get any better. Block her number and get on with your life.

TroyDT · Answer

I move on to the next one. I don't want to sit at dinner with someone with whom I do not click or worse a food whore and then get stuck kicking down $200 plus afterwards. Coffee or simple meet up for first couple, then if we hit it off, even if just as friends, I'll take her somewhere nice.

Dinosaursandanime65 · Answer

I don’t like dates in the first place but, I would ask her “are you going for me or free food? Free food is cool but, it’s not cool to use people”. And then I would probably leave her because I don’t have time for people like that. My cats are way better than that

Anonymous · Answer

I'd walk away from her, the sense of entitlement of women today is one of the reasons no man wants to date them, the coffee date is a 'get to know you', dinner date comes later, if they cannot deal with that then that is their problem not the men's.

Cherry234 · Answer

These types of women sound very entitled. I wouldn't go out with women like that if I were a man.

dolemite89 · Answer

well coffee is more of a friendzone thing so i think guys should take girls out for a drink or even dinner. You only do that stuff if a girl deserves it tho with good behavior. if she’s acting like a brat saying she deserves like an expensive dinner at a nice restaurant tell her to go fuck herself.

Anonymous · Answer

Does this ACTUALLY happen to anyone in real life? Because it sounds like the sort of thing that lots of people complain about in the abstract, but in reality no one's ever actually experienced it.

And if you're REALLY concerned about it, just don't tell her what your date plan is. Tell her it's a surprise and you'll pick her up at whatever o'clock or she should meet you at such and so place at whatever time. Then take her to coffee.

Simples!

Oigit · Answer

I'd just say "Sure we can go to dinner. But we are going dutch." and see what happens next.

Ryan1979 · Answer

Then I would look for someone else. I don't even know you why should I be buying your food. Unless we are actively exclusive or married I am not buying your food.

Sour-rose · Answer

:)..."okay, bish." I ain't fukin' with that kind of shi, bye lol

Libertycityguy · Answer

She would be looking for another date. While I usually pay, but if a date said I was going to pay. Bye bye. Don't let the door hit you on the ass on the way out.

Jenny-Marie · Answer

I think that for an initial date/meet a coffee is fine. It gives a chance to chat without too much pressure or unrealistic expectations. I would not really be interested if forced into an expensive dinner date.

Billlewis · Answer

I'd take her wherever she wanted to have dinner.

Ligerzzero · Answer

Red flag, means extremely high maintenance, and is only looking for rich guy.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

I don't mind doting on women. I enjoy it, actually. I just make sure that women earn that shit before I pull out my check book.

qwert1234 · Answer

Take her to the cheapest (but safe) fastfood joint in the community. I choose the place. No negotiations.

Part2603 · Answer

"Wow, you're really invested in this date idea."

Sixgunsound · Answer

If what I offered isn’t good enough and treated as negotiable, I’m out.

Anonymous · Answer

people know their worth. and if your worth doesn't match with theirs, then find someone's who does.

JSmuve · Answer

I'd thank her for disqualifying herself from any sort of relationship with me

Aakash_Hangargi · Answer

I am surprised by the three women in comment section

maximumpower · Answer

She DEMANDS a dinner? Take her to McDonalds and leave her there. Don't bother to even think of dating her again.

Heolurt · Answer

I'd pass, even if I've never even been on a date before, when they display their entitlement I'd walk away.

IMHO1000 · Answer

How about being a man and not a simp. Why spend money on a person that you don't know. Have some standards. This is also a great way to see if she believes that she is "entitled"

BJP21 · Answer

Chuckee Cheese is just the place. Or McDonald's ill supersize the meal.

captain_voidwalker · Answer

Inform her that dinner comes with a complementary blow job

AndrésC64 · Answer

I'd immediately bow out and thank the stars that I dodged a bullet with that wench.

Anonymous · Answer

Probably laugh. How could you do anything else at such a proclamation.

Anonymous · Answer

I'll tell her to go find a sugar daddy because I am not one. I hate gold diggers.

Theo2593 · Answer

Doesn't matter, I wouldn't be talking to her anymore after that. Continue living my life.

Subarugirl · Answer

I wouldn't take her out...

Moose304 · Answer

I would tell her bye!

AviatorTom · Answer

Bye sweetie... find your own dinner date.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

"She's for the STREETS!!"

Anonymous · Answer

Drink up then fuck off

dudeinohio · Answer

NEXT!

LimitedBenefits101 · Answer

Slap her

AshleySeeks · Answer

I'd move on

Anonymous · Answer

NO THANKS!

What would you do if a woman said a coffee date was not good enough to take her out and insist you take her to dinner (you're paying of course)?

Most Helpful Opinions

Most Helpful Opinions

What Girls & Guys Said

What would you do if a woman said a coffee date was not good enough to take her out and insist you take her to dinner (you're paying of course)?

Most Helpful Opinions

Most Helpful Opinions

What Girls & Guys Said

We're glad to see you liked this post.