Search Results: make the first move

Disclaimer- don't judge, don't tell me to choose the one i love coz i don't fall in love.

1st guy-

•loves me from past 8 years and can not move on •i am his first love and has never dated anyone else coz he is waiting for me •doesn't know how to express well or care although he loves me but isn't able to make me feel much loved (this bothers me a bit). •his love language is roasting •better looking than the second guy and has better education and career. •mostly shares memes and always in a fun mood

2nd guy-

•loves me from past 2 years. •i am his first love •he knows how to express love and makes me feel so much loved and valued •his love language is taking care •has very bad academics (this bothers me a bit) •mostly talks about my problems and gives suggestions.

Brad & I started long-distance dating through an online app in Nov 2023. He met me in person in Feb. I managed to move closer to his city because of school from March-June, so once I came, we began living together & he proposed to me in May. I didn't share this info with my family since they're crazy. A school situation happened where I got dismissed, so my sister came to move me back home in June. She met him for the first time & didn't like him for different reasons. She said I had no choice but to come home since my mom had heart issues & needed me. Brad didn't want me to go, so I told him to meet my family & we all left the following day.

My family didn't like him since he was focused on taking me back to his home & not caring about my mom needing me/my school situation. I decided to stay with family & Brad disliked that since he hoped I'd leave that day. He left & gave me a hard time about my decision since then. My mom said she plans a Sept party where I can move back in with him more honorably than if I just left. Brad didn't want to do it, but I did. We waited until Sept & then I discovered my mom lied. She hoped we'd break up by now since she didn't like him. I fought with her about it, she apologized, & now booked the venue in Nov by showing me confirmation. She even talked with his parents for the first time about this as well so they can see if she keep her word. Brad now feels distrust with her & said if I didn't leave my home by the end of the month, then he'd end the relationship even though he's not going to help me leave here truly. I told him if my mom started to do anything fishy before Nov, I'd leave, but it didn't make sense to end the relationship over something like this, especially since I planned to visit. He sent me a goodbye/breakup text last night and goodnight. I texted him a couple of texts, but he hasn't responded. Do you think he's taking time to think and will reply soon? Or do you think he's ghosting me? I don't want to lose him :(

I met a guy named Brad back in Nov 2023. We were dating long distance until March-June when we began living together and got engaged in May. I was in school at the time and got dismissed, so when my family found out, they sent my sister to move me back home. My sister met Brad for the first time because I hadn't told them I was with anyone until then. She immediately didn't like him because he doesn't make much money and his house looked very run down. She basically said I had no choice but to come home because my mom wasn't doing well, and we all left the same day so Brad could meet my family. Me and Brad promised each other I would leave that day to be with him.

While I watched him interact with my family and heard their concerns, i thought it would be best for me to be at home for the time being since my mom just got a pacemaker placed and needed me to care for her. Brad threatened to end the relationship then, but decided later that he will wait because my family said they'd throw a small party and I'd move in back with him after that in Sept. He kept saying how me staying with family wasn't right the whole time, and how he didn't want to do the party anymore. I did not know what to do because we all agreed that the party was fine.

Now, it's been a day that he blocked my number and Instagram so there's no way for me to contact him. I do want to be with him in marriage because I care about him and don't understand why he can't do the party. Everyone is telling me varied things but do you think I did the right thing by staying with family and waiting for the party? Or do you think I should've just left to be with him by now? I thought what my family was doing was fair considering that me and brad are from different cultures and he didn't ask for my hand in marriage prior to the engagement either. Plus I had gotten dismissed from my program so I needed time to figure out a new career path too.