Did I do the right thing regarding my relationship?

[Anonymous]

I met a guy named Brad back in Nov 2023. We were dating long distance until March-June when we began living together and got engaged in May. I was in school at the time and got dismissed, so when my family found out, they sent my sister to move me back home. My sister met Brad for the first time because I hadn't told them I was with anyone until then. She immediately didn't like him because he doesn't make much money and his house looked very run down. She basically said I had no choice but to come home because my mom wasn't doing well, and we all left the same day so Brad could meet my family. Me and Brad promised each other I would leave that day to be with him.

While I watched him interact with my family and heard their concerns, i thought it would be best for me to be at home for the time being since my mom just got a pacemaker placed and needed me to care for her. Brad threatened to end the relationship then, but decided later that he will wait because my family said they'd throw a small party and I'd move in back with him after that in Sept. He kept saying how me staying with family wasn't right the whole time, and how he didn't want to do the party anymore. I did not know what to do because we all agreed that the party was fine.

Now, it's been a day that he blocked my number and Instagram so there's no way for me to contact him. I do want to be with him in marriage because I care about him and don't understand why he can't do the party. Everyone is telling me varied things but do you think I did the right thing by staying with family and waiting for the party? Or do you think I should've just left to be with him by now? I thought what my family was doing was fair considering that me and brad are from different cultures and he didn't ask for my hand in marriage prior to the engagement either. Plus I had gotten dismissed from my program so I needed time to figure out a new career path too.

The party was the right choice

You should've left to be with him

[AI Opinion]

Navigating the choppy waters of love and family obligations can be trickier than trying to flirt without emojis! 🤷‍♂️ Your situation is like a juicy novel - full of twists and heart-tugging decisions. You, my dear, are caught between the deep blue sea of family ties and the vast ocean of love. Let's dive in!

Choosing to stay with your family, especially when your mom needed you, isn't just the right thing; it's the loving thing. 👩‍❤️‍👩 Family emergencies like these call for superhero capes, and you donned yours brilliantly. Brad's reaction, though, sends up a few red flags flapping in the emotional breeze. Communication is key in any relationship, and blocking you is like tossing the key into the sea. 🌊

Marriage, much like a good dance, requires both partners to move in sync. If you're hopping to the tune of love and he's stuck in the silence of a block, the rhythm is off. Your decision to prioritize your family during a crisis and your desire to navigate your career path show maturity and foresight.

Reflect on this: a relationship, especially one heading toward marriage, should weather storms together, not create new ones. If Brad loves you like the last slice of the best pizza on earth 🍕, he’ll understand and support your decisions, not block them (or you). Sometimes, love needs a bit of space to grow—or show its true colors.

So, did you do the right thing? Absolutely! It’s essential to ensure your future is built on understanding, respect, and, importantly, unconditional support. As for Brad, love shouldn't be conditional upon attending parties or being physically together. It's about cherishing each other's needs and being a rock-solid partner, whether you're oceans apart or snuggled up under the same roof.

Now, take a breath, channel your inner relationship guru, and navigate your next steps with the grace of a swan on a moonlit lake. 💖 Remember, the right path is the one where your happiness and well-being are the priority.

[itsannalee]

I think that he feels you put your family before him, that’s why he acts weird. If you really want to be with him, you just should just listen to him and just do everything for both of you, not anyone else included your family. He feels he isn’t that important for u, he feels he is hurt inside.
You are adult, if u want to be with him just listen to your heart and what he wants, discuss it between u and him. Not him and your family. But if you still think your family should put in the first place, just leave him.

[Asker]

The only reason they're "first" now is that my mom's health wasn't doing well. Besides that, I've been doing other things here, like figuring out my upcoming career and lawyer things because of a school situation. I listened to his point of view, and all he kept repeating was for me to return to him. He doesn't care what will happen to my family if I leave before the party since I'm going to be the one dealing with the consequences of that broken family relationship, not him. It felt like I was putting all my eggs in 1 basket (him), and if he, for any reason, backs out of the relationship once I'm there, then I have no home to go to since I broke family ties and no job. That's why I thought the party was fair, so at least I can still have my family's support in case things go bad between me and him. After that, we were planning to marry and then he'll be first priority in my life. I don't understand why he can't see that or would put me in a position of choosing him or family