Help me choose the right guy for me?

[Anonymous]

Disclaimer- don't judge, don't tell me to choose the one i love coz i don't fall in love.

1st guy-

•loves me from past 8 years and can not move on •i am his first love and has never dated anyone else coz he is waiting for me •doesn't know how to express well or care although he loves me but isn't able to make me feel much loved (this bothers me a bit). •his love language is roasting •better looking than the second guy and has better education and career. •mostly shares memes and always in a fun mood

2nd guy-

•loves me from past 2 years. •i am his first love •he knows how to express love and makes me feel so much loved and valued •his love language is taking care •has very bad academics (this bothers me a bit) •mostly talks about my problems and gives suggestions.

1st guy

2nd guy

[Flower7]

The 2nd guy sounds much better. The only things the 1st guy seems to have going for him are looks and money, which are both shallow reasons to choose someone.

[Asker]

Yeah i kinda agree with you.

[Anonymous]

1st guy sounds like a Chad. 2nd guy sounds like a simp

either way what are you doing stringing 2 guys along and wasting their time?

[Asker]

Stringing two guys? What do you mean? I have clear cut said no to both of them and if they choose not to move on and still keep on trying then that's on to them.. the first guy has been in my block list since last years.

[Asker]

And now since they both chose not to move on i will date one of them coz now i am ready for a relationship.

[Opinion Owner]

then date the 2nd guy if the 1st guy is on your block list

[Pohjolan]

3rd guy. If you were really attracted to 1 or 2 then you wouldn't be asking us to choose for you.

[ChicoFromThe305]

If you don't love then don't choose any, if you are just going to waste someone's time, there's no reason to keep them hoping on something that isn't going to happen

[Asker]

I am not gonna waste their time.. i can care well and be a good girlfriend to them and stay by them but i have had my first love now loving someone else the same way is not possible for me anymore although i have moved on.

[ChicoFromThe305]

You haven't moved on, if you did, you'd be able to love others, if you are still thinking of the other individual in everyday life then that is a clear sign you aren't over the person, mostly if it effects your ability to grow emotional attachment to others.

[Asker]

Um no i am never thinking of him. I do feel attraction to other people but not love. And to be honest since i moved on from him i feel i did not love him either it was just some strong attraction. Actually i don't believe that it is possible to move on if you actually love someone.

[ChicoFromThe305]

It's possible, love doesn't last forever, it must be kept lit, it's why it's compared to a flame or spark, either ways, only jump into connections with people with the pure intentions of it staying lit.