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Just for the record it is not racist if you just find certain ethnicities physically attractive.

Physical attraction isn’t a choice. Race is also a bullshit victim excuse some people use who can’t handle rejection (if it was due to looks). If a minority girl isn’t physically attracted to me because I’m white then she’s just not attracted to me. I might be disappointed but it’s just how it is. Not her fault because physical attraction isn’t a choice.

However if you do find someone of a different race attractive but won’t even give them a chance because of unfair prejudices that’s a different story. It’s one thing if you took the time to get to know them and you just found them incompatible. But quite another if you intentionally stayed away despite finding them attractive otherwise.

Anyway I have have dated outside my race plenty of times. But often found these women brought up racial differences more than I did. I had an Asian ex girlfriend who would say “ah white people” occasionally when she was frustrated with me over something. It didn’t bother me the much because she was young, beautiful and in love with me for a long stretch. But I rarely brought up race when dating and if I did it was usually positive (she was a good cook).

But still I truly believe women consider race more when it comes to dating then they will admit (white girls especially won’t admit that).

Again I do NOT think it’s “racist” to admit you don’t find a certain ethnicity attractive (but respect them otherwise). But I think women are secretly more picky about this.

I am 29 and never had a real girlfriend. I have wanted a girlfriend so badly ever since I was a child, but I have never been able to achieve that. I haven't even kissed a girl in over 8 years now.

I just cannot give my heart to a woman who has loved another guy before me, especially from her youth. It doesn't feel fair to give my heart fully for the first time to a woman who has given hers to someone before me, especially from her youth and especially to multiple guys. Me and a woman can no longer say we knew each other during our youth. That is missed time we can never get back.

I have a feeling I am going to live agonizing loneliness the rest of my life. That may be my burden I have to bear. But my question is, will my rewards be in the afterlife and will I have my chance for love then?