Does this girl like me or is there not enough information to tell? Is she a shy person? Also, should I message her soon or wait a little longer?

[WhiteBoyChill]

I had to travel to another company office for work related reasons on a business occasion.

Basically the idea was that the company wanted to have this whole big social event and bring a bunch of people together from different office locations.

Basically I came across this Asian girl while I was there who was pretty cute.

But very shy at the same time.

But that almost made her like 20x more attractive.

Also, she was an authentic Asian girl. Not one of those California thotties. She grew up in Vietnam.

Is attending school internationally and residing in the states.

She was barely talking to other girls. Didn’t behave like the other girls. Didn’t really hang around them much.

She was her own unique and mysterious person. I never saw her talking to ANY guys either even though practically all the other girls did talk to guys at some point (double win)

When we (the whole company as one large big ass group) went to our venue where we had a reservation for the evening, she was on her phone most of the time wandering around. My company had reserved the evening at an arcade. I made a couple of attempts to talk to her but mostly let her do her own thing. Either way she looked nervous and didn’t really engage with people.

I thought maybe I might’ve made things a bit awkward for her.

But either way the next day rolls around, I’m in the room where everyone is supposed to meet up, and she smiles and comes over to my table.

I initiate the conversation, get the ball rolling and mostly just share my thoughts about stuff. I had a CBD gummy earlier in the morning so I feel pretty mellowed out and I’m kind of just being very introspective about things.

As we are talking I do notice that she moved herself physically closer to me though and maintained that space.

I began thinking to myself that I had a chance and so I ask for her number and she gives it.

Anyway, when we had to leave the event afterward she did smile and say goodbye.

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I’m just not sure when to message her.

I don’t want it to be so soon it seems desperate, or so late she forgets about me or assumes I have no interest.

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My point being, I hardly ever talk to women. Never had a female friend. So I don't know what my next move should be, however she is my ideal kind of woman, and I’d hate to let a potential opportunity pass up.

In all my time at my current University, I’d never met a girl like her. It just feels as though I won’t meet another girl like her anytime soon so I might as well just make an honest effort and try

[Exterminatore]

I think there’s a pretty decent chance she like you.


Call her in 5 days or so. Set up a date. Have a specific time, date and location planned. Then get off the phone. The date is for talking and you’re a busy man with a life and stuff to do. Do not expend all your ammo before the date. Then the date will be awkward and there’ll be nothing to talk about. Be a mystery in between dates.

[WhiteBoyChill]

Can’t set up a date when we live in vastly different regions of the country.

[Exterminatore]

Well you can try to kinda keep in touch with her if you want but I wouldn’t recommend anymore than that. Long distance relationships are pretty unrealistic. You can’t spend time together in person. That is needed in order to really get to know each other. You can’t really get to see how a person is day to day and can’t really get a good feel how they behave in various life situations and react to challenges without spending actual physical time together.

[WhiteBoyChill]

I know. But my college is fcking liberal as shit, and I’m unlikely to meet somebody like her again.

[Exterminatore]

I’m not gonna say dating and meeting a girl who will work for you is easy.

Liberalism is everywhere. However long distance relationships don’t work typically and generally are not a great way to truly get to know someone.

Give it time.

Have you tried the internet? What about girls at church?

[WhiteBoyChill]

Nah man. I might as well make the honest effort. I know I’ve found somebody who is likely compatible so I might as well try and make it work instead of throwing it all away

[WhiteBoyChill]

Also, the internet exacerbates the problem with LDRs and in church my options are still extremely limited. No particular girls there I felt a connection to

[whirled_up_girl]

I may be a bit past your age group but I think it would be fine to send her a text message. Even if it doesn't turn into a relationship you might just make a good friend. Having a work friend is always cool even if they are long distance.

[WhiteBoyChill]

Yeah. I think it’ll just be a work friend lol

[Fanfare690]

How about call her on your cell... you got her number don't put the horse before the cart🙂

[WhiteBoyChill]

True, but it is generally best to announce your intention to call first right?

Like I should ask can we talk later?

[WhiteBoyChill]

I’d hate to just call somebody before saying a word to them

[Fanfare690]

You can do either or.

Good luck :)

[Fanfare690]

If she's young she might prefer to text... but I don't know if it's serious. Like a serious relationship I'm looking for... talk on the phone

[WhiteBoyChill]

Yeah I’m thinking maybe not address that so early on but give things some time

[Fanfare690]

Sure do whatever feels right for you. I'm happy you found someone cool

[WhiteBoyChill]

Update: We’ve exchanged several messages and I plan on calling her later

[Fanfare690]

Sweetest
Keep cool bro you go this

[Fanfare690]

Sweeeeeet****

[WhiteBoyChill]

Everything seemed to work out fine so I would be tempted to believe so

[Alwayreckles93]

You should call her invite her for coffee see how it goes.

[WhiteBoyChill]

Well. Problem is, she lives in Texas and I live in the Northeast.

It just so happened that I met someone for a short period of time and things went well

[WhiteBoyChill]

If there was more legitimate free time though, I 100% would’ve taken her out though

[Alwayreckles93]

Focus on building your wealth by the time your 30 you will be so glad you took my advice. I've miss out on family gatherings, weddings , friends gatherings. I don't regret it im debt free.