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My boyfriend and I are having problems, and I've come to the conclusion that the main cause is he doesn't talk to me. I tell him a lot-that I miss him when he's gone, that I'd look after his mother, that I've made a lot of effort in this relationship, that I need him to tell me what he wants me to do when he goes to business school. He just tells me I'm beautiful or he misses me. He's never said he loves me even though he shows it. He never tells me what he wants, he's selfless and just says "idk". I think it's because he's captain in special ops, and so he's trained to be like a robot. Recently he's been accusing me of cheating cause of apparent "signs" he saw-but I never cheated on him, at least not physically. His suspicions started when he was on one of his missions for work and I emailed him I was having mixed feelings. Ever since then he's being overbearing and suspects me. Last night he said that because of what I wrote to him (about my doubts) and because of this sore I have on my lip, he suspected I'm cheating. I had a long talk with him today, including all of what I just wrote, convincing him I never cheated, and he told me bout an ex who cheated on him, that's why he feels paranoid. NOW, the problem is that I seem to have convinced him I never cheated-because I haven't BUT I haven't told him I do actually have strong affections for sb else. This guy is direct with me, was there for me when I was in a major accident while my boyfriend was on mission, expressed more worry than my boyfriend, compliments me and tells me he cares about me. He inspires me. He believes in me. He's open about his problems. I've always been the kind of girl who appreciates directness/talent/vulnerability in men, so he's just been very appealing to me. I love my boyfriend. We have fun together and he's very sweet and romantic. But he's not direct, doesn't inspire me and doesn't say he believes in me. What should I do?

I've kind of crossed the boundary of friendship with one of my guy friends, and we have been hooking up for over the last 2/3 months.

He has always openly said that he really likes me, constantly compliments my looks, says I have a great personality etc.. We don't go more than 2/3 days without seeing each other and we message constantly through-out the day. We go to museums and galleries together and late night walks, and (according to him) I am the only person he has told about some personal stuff he was going through. He spontaneously one day asked me to come and meet his parents, which I think is a good sign.

He also told me he doesn't like me getting with other guys, and - to my knowledge at least- has not got with any other girls.

That being said, when we first started hooking up, he told me not to fall in love with him. From my experience, no matter how 'in love' a guy acts with you, if his intentions are not serious from the get-go, usually means he is not ready to fall in love/ commit to a relationship.

From this brief context, to your best knowledge- ladies and gentlemen- how can I check if he loves me or not? What signs should I look out for? Thank you all (in advance)!