L O V E.
I love romance. I love feeling loved and loving someone. I just love the feeling of being in love. Walking hand in hand, forehead kisses, warm embrace, sweet nothings, handwritten love letters, heart emojis, undying devotion, etc. Just the idea of being in love and looking into someone else’s eyes and telling them I LOVE YOU will make the strongest man on earth melt. Who doesn’t want this Love thing? That warm fuzzy butterflies in your stomach feeling? You see these cheesy couples online or in real life and makes you want to get into a relationship right now wishing you’d have that kind of lovey feeling too.
But are you ready to be in a relationship? Or you just want the feeling of a boyfriend wrapping his arms around you calling you baby?
Here are signs you’re so not ready to be in a relationship yet:
1. You’re still not over your last ex
You still wear his hoodie, his presence lingers in your house and everything reminds you of him. It’s like you have a shrine of your ex. You’re still in love with someone who already left you or who’s already with someone else. Hooking up with someone right now is so tempting to try to erase the image of his handsome face but it will only hurt you or the other person.
2. You like your independence
You like to go wherever, whenever you want without worrying about someone else doing whatever the hell you want.
3. You want someone who’s with someone else
If your focus is on someone else’s beau, you will never be ready to give another girl a chance if your heart is set on a girl who already has a man.
4. You got too much going on
Your life is about to blow up in smoke. Dragging someone else into your already chaotic life isn’t a very good idea. It will only end in tragedy.
5. You have other priorities
It could be your family, your kids, your work, etc and having a love life isn’t one of them.
6. You’re broke/in a financial rut
You don’t want to be borrowing money from your partner or be financially dependent on them or worse, drown them with you in debt.
7. You’re too needy
You’re an adult, not a newborn. You don’t need someone else to cater to your every need. Your girlfriend is not your mother or babysitter or maid.
8. You want multiple sexual partners
Unless you’re in an open relationship, you just can’t stay faithful to one person. You just can’t keep the snake in your pants!
9. You like your space/solitude/me time
You cannot imagine sharing most of your time with someone else, doing things with them for them. You like the whole bed/closet all to yourself. You enjoy your own company and taking that me time from you seems farfetched.
10. You don’t compromise
You are not willing to sacrifice your time, yourself for someone else. It’s all about you.
11. You get overly jealous
You hate sharing your so with their family or friends. If you can’t let your so make friends or visit family, then don’t have one.
12. You have controlling issues
Your partner is not your bitch. If you want to treat them like your slave or servant, worse a prisoner, then stay single.
13. You are abusive
If you can’t control your violent tendencies, your partner is not your punching bag.
14. You’re bored af
Don’t drag an innocent loving person into your boring ass life to be your entertainment. Get a clown for that.
15. You just can’t stay single
You’re in love with the idea of just having a person to be at your beck and call and to be there for you when you feeling horny or lonely or want to be cuddled. You just don’t like the idea of being alone.
There are many more signs that you’re not ready to be in a relationship but if you can’t love a person truly with your heart, then don’t waste their time or yours. Don’t force a relationship to happen. It’s simple, STAY SINGLE.