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I have a friend who's a decent enough guy overall. A hard worker with a friendly disposition that you can rely on, except when it comes to his relationships. He likes to blame everyone else for the reasons his relationships fail. "She lied to me. She left without warning. He lied to her about me. He seduced her into leaving me." That kind of talk. Near as I can tell there have been 3 women, from an outside view, that were to blame for things turning bad.

That being said his personality in a relationship is more often at fault. He's very dismissive of small issues that later turn into large ones. He talks down to his women like they legitimately don't know any better. And if He's not getting the attention he thinks he deserves he'll try and get sympathy from every other woman who will listen. Overly needy and self centered, is how I imagine most of his exes would put it.

Irregardless, he is still a friend of mine and I've been trying to push him on to a better path for the past few years. Unfortunately he seems like he's settling into the lonely and bitter old man trope by embracing his "victim-hood" and shutting positive people out of his life. I just wanna know if I can pull him back from his downward slide or should I let him hit bottom and let find his own way back?

When I say “dangerous” I don’t mean a guy making some asshole remark like “fuck you cunt” or something else when a woman (politely) turns him down. Him showing some frustrated anger is NOT getting “dangerous”. It might not be appropriate and even creepy. But there is a fine line between him being sour grapes vs. being a legitimate threat.

I’m talking about a guy seriously getting physically violent, legitimately threatening violence or aggressively stalking afterwards. I’m talking in person stalking too (not stalking on social media). Like showing up at the woman’s house or at her work.

I do believe men like this exist. I make zero excuses for them and it’s twisted/wrong. But I also believe they are very rare (less than 1 out of a 1000 men). Instead women get paranoid because of ANECDOTAL evidence. They read a story online or hear of friend of a friend having a legitimately scary incident. Then they get this bogey man complex about men in general.

I say this because I think this paranoia has made women progressively worse in the last few years at tactfully rejecting men. They rather play games, ghost and of course friend zone and rationalize it to themselves out of a misplaced paranoia. When in reality all they have to say is “hey thanks for approaching me but I have to be honest I’m not interested”’. While no guy likes hearing that the reality is 99% of men out there will accept that and move on.

But why is it so hard for women to be (politely) honest? I think the so called rise of the “incel” community is partially attributed to men being frustrated about not getting direct communication from women. The game playing does more psychological damage then they realize.

Most men can take rejection especially in our mid 20s or older. We are used to sticking our necks out and taking the risk. It unfortunately comes with the territory but it is how it is.