I want to ask her out but her friend was into me?

[BigTimer]

Two years ago I met two women. Call them Jen and Katie. They are good friends with each other. I really liked Jen and wanted to ask her out. Katie however really liked me and shot her shot with me. I nicely turned her down as I am not into her and not attracted to her. She seemed ok genuinely speaking. I backed off the whole situation for a bout a year. As I didn’t want to hurt their relationship. Fast forward to past few months I started getting into contact with Jen again and it feels so right being into her. Should I tell Katie I like Jen before pursuing Jen? I am thinking it could hurt their friendship if Katie is blindsided? Jen has always shown signs that she probably likes me. I really don’t want to pass up on potentially missing out on a great women who I feel could maybe really click with and potentially fall in love with. I know I am a grown man but this feels like a situation that If not handled properly could end bad. Advice please thanks.

[Chrysanthee]

Why would you tell Katie? 😅 take ur shot with Jen, as she is the one you have a stronger connection with. And since you seem to follow your heart, it wouldn't be good if you chose Katie and didn't like her that much. You'd just be wasting both your times. Maybe makes a pros and cons list and check which of the two you match better with? You don't need to talk to Katie about you having feelings with Jen if you are to ask Jen out. Since it doesn't concern her at all. And don't feel the need to defend yourself. If she's a true friend she should support both you and Jen. Same goes for Jen if you choose Katie. Remember they have feelings too so don't toy around.

[emperor90]

Go with the girl who makes u happy