I have wrote about this topic before but I have more to say since more stuff has happened so you can look back at my other question I posted. so I'll start from the beginning. First it all starts that my girlfriends best friend is her ex and everything was going OK for about five months. All until she started to act different so before you know it she breaks up with me she had her reasons and so forth I was really hurt when she broke up with me because I had no idea and was caught off guard. So a month goes from the break up to when we got back together so we are all happy that we are back together and all that stuff. But I would say about two weeks into us getting back she tells me that she kissed her best friend (her ex) because in the time that we we're broken up her and her best friend we thinking about getting back together. So we talked about it, it was just a kiss so I asked her if she can't see him that often and she agreed to my request. OK so its two months from that incident and we were doing fine. Until she laid the real deal on me and told me that when she broke up with me that first time she slept with her best friend before she broke up with me and she felt mostly guilty for it and had to break up with me. So I am shocked and I had to have time to myself. So I decided I would take her back only under one condition that she has to break all contact with her best friend. So she agreed to my request again. So now its four months since that incident of telling me that crap and one of her friends got into a car accident and she went to the hospital, but I knew that her Ex was going to be there because the two of them have a mutual friendship with the person that got into a accident. So she told me that her ex was making it all weird and stuff and when she got back from the hospital she was being weird probably because of her ex so I noticed that she was texting someone all night and I took a glance and realized it was her ex that she was texting so I confronted her the next day about it and she told me that she didn’t want him to hate her and yeah. So I was a little iffy about the whole thing. Then I realize that she began to act differently to me so I asked what's the matter and she tells me that she wants to make it "ok" between her and her ex. And of course I don’t want that so I didn't care what she does because I was hoping that she would figure out that I was really upset about her wanting to talk to him again. So I waited back then she went and told him that she wanted to talk and what do you know she talked to him to four o'clock in the morning and I told her to talk to me after she was done talking to him. So I was really hurt and upset with the whole thing that she completely ignored my request of not talking to him and totally disrespecting my decision about them. So I had to break up with her because of her wanting to bring him back in her life.
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Wow. let me enlighten you to the situation.
Ok, first of all if she's best freinds with her ex this means only one thing, that she never got over him and the reson I know this is becouse why on earth would she want to keep someone she hated enough to leave around? just think about that for a second.. always remember brother if her ex is still in the picture then you won't be.
So you were together for 5 months, that's sweet but then she started going sour on you, well let me tell you why. I'm guessing you were always there for her, called her every day, texts every day. evenings and weekends.. am I right? you didn't play it cool and just see her once a week for a date with no comuication inbetween did you.. nope and as a result her interest in you started to drop, now her affections didn't dissapear my brother no, no, they went to her ex sho was just there waiting under the lable "best freind".. Now you could have left her at this point, once a womans affection starts to lower its becouse she's losing interest.. vannish for a few weeks and see if she comes back to you. Asking a women why she's acting different is a pointless exercise becouse all she will every say is "yes I'm fine".. yes its frustraiting and to think women say that men lie and mix words..
So what happened next. the one thing you just didn't see coming, she cheated on you.. wow, in the 5 months you knew her at no point did you realise your girl had no intergrity. dude just how fast did you fall for this chick to miss that red flag. I don't care if she's the hottest thing since Megan Fox without integrity she's just a common slag and never forget that..
Now when I read this I hoped you did that vannishing act but no you didnt, you gave her a choice between you or her freind.. I hate to break this to you but she made her choice LONG before you got with her, remember she keeps him in the background as a "best freind", and like you said she began to act different as her interest in you dropped.. and now youve asked a girl who has little interest in you to make a choice between the guy she's know for 5 months or the best freind ex she's still crazy about in her weaker moments.. and what you actualy though it would be you.. wow do you do stand up comedy in your spare time cos that's kinda funny.
and now we look at the situation, your alone and hurt and she's working things out with the best freind ex.. and you know what, the sad part is if you had just realised why she kept her ex around in the first place you could have save yourself all that pain.. sorry brother
but after all is said and done youve learn a lesson and next time you can look out for it..
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