Hello,
Wow. let me enlighten you to the situation.
Ok, first of all if she's best freinds with her ex this means only one thing, that she never got over him and the reson I know this is becouse why on earth would she want to keep someone she hated enough to leave around? just think about that for a second.. always remember brother if her ex is still in the picture then you won't be.
So you were together for 5 months, that's sweet but then she started going sour on you, well let me tell you why. I'm guessing you were always there for her, called her every day, texts every day. evenings and weekends.. am I right? you didn't play it cool and just see her once a week for a date with no comuication inbetween did you.. nope and as a result her interest in you started to drop, now her affections didn't dissapear my brother no, no, they went to her ex sho was just there waiting under the lable "best freind".. Now you could have left her at this point, once a womans affection starts to lower its becouse she's losing interest.. vannish for a few weeks and see if she comes back to you. Asking a women why she's acting different is a pointless exercise becouse all she will every say is "yes I'm fine".. yes its frustraiting and to think women say that men lie and mix words..
So what happened next. the one thing you just didn't see coming, she cheated on you.. wow, in the 5 months you knew her at no point did you realise your girl had no intergrity. dude just how fast did you fall for this chick to miss that red flag. I don't care if she's the hottest thing since Megan Fox without integrity she's just a common slag and never forget that..
Now when I read this I hoped you did that vannishing act but no you didnt, you gave her a choice between you or her freind.. I hate to break this to you but she made her choice LONG before you got with her, remember she keeps him in the background as a "best freind", and like you said she began to act different as her interest in you dropped.. and now youve asked a girl who has little interest in you to make a choice between the guy she's know for 5 months or the best freind ex she's still crazy about in her weaker moments.. and what you actualy though it would be you.. wow do you do stand up comedy in your spare time cos that's kinda funny.
and now we look at the situation, your alone and hurt and she's working things out with the best freind ex.. and you know what, the sad part is if you had just realised why she kept her ex around in the first place you could have save yourself all that pain.. sorry brother
but after all is said and done youve learn a lesson and next time you can look out for it..
Good Luck,
-Chris
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I read the following: The title, "my ex and her bestfriend", and "they're thinking about getting back together"...
It's probably a GREAT idea to move on. It's okay to be a man; but kleenex is avaiable for a dollar.
Okay so in my opinion you really do love this girl and in your heart letting go of her is not an option. But I also think that being with her will only hurt yourself because if she isn't willing to cut off contact with him to be with you (which she should do to earn your trust no matter how close they are if she really loves you.) then I don't think she cares about you as much as she should. As hard as it would probably be I would say that you need to tell her that she needs to chose between the two of you.. and if she can't not talk to him anymore then you are done for good. I know that is a whole lot easier said then done but right now I think you are the only one who can save yourself from a lot of hurt in the future.
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