Why does my girlfriend treat me more like a best friend?

Anonymous
I've recently broke up with my girlfriend of 4 years because I was utterly bored with the relationship. What's really confusing about this situation is that we are madly in love with each other. I've had many girlfriends in the past and I was very happy to have found her. This is her first serious relationship. She had a unique upbringing. She comes from a very strict family and at first they treated me horribly. We were 18 when we started going out and now we are 22. I'm a very good guy in my opinion. I'm studying engineering and plan on doing graduate school, I don't do drugs, I respect my family and everyone around me, and most importantly I treated her very well. Long story short, 2 years ago I told her that I don't understand why her parents don't like me. I broke up with her because of her parents but then a week later I took her back because I thought it was a silly reason to lose someone so good. I knew the juice was worth the squeeze. Now my relationship with her parents is much better. However, I find myself so utterly bored. She told me from the beginning that she wants to abstain from sex until marriage and I totally understood because that was something I wanted as well. We do get intimate (but no sex) but every time we do I feel like a pervert because I feel that she's only doing it to service me or something. The problem is I'm always the one that initiates anything. Even kissing, touching, etc. I feel like she's doing me a favor. We haven't made out in 3 months because I didn't initiate. Before that, if I would initiate she would stop after a few seconds and it left me just getting upset. Essentially I feel so unsatisfied. I started going out with an old friend to clubs and bars and have caught myself fancying other girls. Not the simple attraction, but the 'I really want to talk to her and get to know her'. I felt guilty for this because I wouldn't be able to cheat on anyone. I just want to get intimate with her. I'm always there for her emotionally; there to talk, to hug. She keeps talking about babies and marriage and how she sees our life in the future. I feel like I'm married now and the ring and wedding in the future will be just formality. The problem is though, this girl is just SO damn comfortable with me. I have never seen the lingerie I bought her 2 years ago. She won't even make out with me. I told her that I wanted a break recently and explained myself and she was hysterical. We are still madly in love with each other but I need more in our relationship than being there for her when she needs a hug and cuddling after dinner. I'm 22 and I feel like I'm 60. I want to have fun and be excited. I can't handle this, I don't know what to do. It's really hard to explain this but we are amazing with each other emotionally and intellectually. Like soul mates really. Yet I just don't want to be so sexually frustrated all the time. And yes, I've told her many times in the past about my feelings.
Why does my girlfriend treat me more like a best friend?
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