I need to know if he's shy, gay, or uninterested but I don't want to ask! HEY SHY GUYS-- I need answers!

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First, we work with each other so it creates opportunity and tension at the same time! We all know that it can get extremely unsettling if things go awry in a work environment, I don't want to think more, it be less, and then it be extremely weird seeing each other every day, so that's where my hesitance lies in asking about anything.(side note: I am told I am very attractive by people, I'm very kind though, and fear rejection too!)

He has indicated when talking with me alone that he's a bit of an introvert, but he's not opposed to being part of social occasions and hanging out with people. Other details:

Why I think he may like me:

~Tracked me down out of nowhere to introduce himself when I first started working there.

~Acted kind of goofy at first making jokes around me with co-workers, being all giddy after our introduction

~Asked to add me on Facebook and did.

~Suggested I hang out at group things for work and otherwise.

~Looks straight into my eyes intensely when we talk about serious things, it's strangely soul searching but I don't mind it with him.

~He will 'pop in' where I'm at sometimes, though not extremely random places like the break room or in where I work.

~Always says 'Hi *my name here*' but it's sometimes sheepishly other times boisterous.

~Asked if I was attending a group function going on, chatted while we were there (I clammed up, it ended poorly on my end, I'm such an idiot sometimes!).

~E-mails me promptly back when I have a question or comment about something.

~Starts conversations about my likes/dislikes (not sure if just being 'nice')

AND NOW The Reasons I think he may be shy, gay, or uninterested:

~He hasn't had a relationship with anyone, that anyone at the office knows of. (this leads people to think he may be a closeted gay, you know how people are, I will admit he's pretty ambiguous, though his status says interested in 'women' hmmmm. anyways)

~Away from gay, he talks differently with others than he does me including other women. He's much more comfortable with them, yet hesitates talking to me sometimes which throws me off. I would love even to be in the 'friend zone' but just can't get there with him.

~He will talk to me sometimes, then not others, and will leave the room if there is silence when we're in there.

~He won't always look at me either. He'll stare at his computer while talking to me, then when he does look up he'll look me in the eyes while talking (not really smile which bothers me sometimes just more of a blank stare) then will look away. It's really bad around co-workers he won't really smile or talk to me at all around them! Except for hellos, etc.

~He's got my number, no call or text. Ever.

I will say, my signals are just as mixed, I'm hot and cold fearing rejection. And I'm somewhat giving up. I just keep waiting for a clearer signal. I was also told he may actually be 'annoyed' by me, hence the no smiling/avoidance sometimes. I feel chemistry, though it may be tension, I can't tell!
I need to know if he's shy, gay, or uninterested but I don't want to ask! HEY SHY GUYS-- I need answers!
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