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I remember getting in my first big age gap relationship at 28. I was dating a 20 year old. It was a weird combination of excitement, fear of judgment, concern about maturity and yet youthful fun and vigor. I was also the oldest guy she ever dated too. That one didn’t work out. She was very immature and a freeloader. I also sometimes acted purposely immature out of fear of looking too boring/old. There is a playful way to do that but you need to switch it off fast in when you are expected to be an adult. Not always easy to switch.

I’ve been in 3 other age gap relationships. Biggest gap was 34 and 21. That was doomed to fail from the start but we had a ton of fun while it lasted. She ghosted me after 9 months and I was surprised it lasted that long. The ghosting still hurt and was complete bullshit. But I knew that risk came with the territory.

I’m not opposed to dating women my age. As long their relatively attractive and have a positive attitude I’ll give it a shot. But here are the challenges:

- They are far fewer single women my age.
- They are usually divorced and/or have kids. Not a dealbreaker but it definitely complicates things.
- I also noticed single women my age forget how to be fun. I briefly dated a woman a year older than me and I was shocked/pissed off that she thinks it still okay to shit test men on sexual stuff. She lead me on and changed her mind at the last second. A grown ass woman should know better than that.
- If I want to get serious with one than having kids could be a bigger challenge.
- Some older single women are just mentally unstable. I know that same standard could be applied to me. But as a man nobody is taking a knee to propose to me in marriage. Being single at my age has much different ramifications (and bad stereotypes) as a man vs. a woman.

Let me candid that I don’t dislike cats or dogs. I grew up with a family dog. Domesticated animals can bring companionship and love to humans.

But again they ARE animals. A dog is a dog and cat is a cat. Their brain structure is far different than a human. You can build a relationship with an animal but it’s it will never ever be a substitute for a real person. If you are lonely and need a true loyal friend I get it. I’ll say it again a dog is a dog and cat is a cat.

I’ve known that women have always tended to be bigger dog and cat lovers than guys. This is especially true for lonely women who are middle aged or older. But some of them are just ridiculous. They put up a dating app profiles with one pic of themselves and 5 of their dog. If the roles were reversed (but everything the same) and guys were more obsessed about their pets vs women you see countless women putting up takes on how stupid it is.

Just saying.