3 Reasons Stepdads Are Awesome And Deserve Respect

MzAsh
3 Reasons Stepdads Are Awesome And Deserve Respect

A question from an anonymous man the other day warmed my heart. Here's the link:

How do I go about dating a 30 year old widow with kids?

A strong, responsible young guy in his 20s who wants to step up to be the qualified man in order to properly love the woman he wants and be the father figure that her kids will need. This is the man who sets himself as a good example.

I grew up with the love of a stepdad myself. A country guy from the Midwest, he took my sisters and for rides on his tractor through the woods, showed us how to camp, went roller skating with us, and he showed up for Donuts And Dad day at school. We went on family vacations together, and I grew up thinking of him as a father.

There are a few things that are particularly respectable about a man who loves a woman with kids, and treats her kids as well as he would treat his own.

He Takes Responsibility

A stepfather knows how important it is for children to have a masculine father figure and role model in their lives. He assumes the responsibility and holds himself accountable for the things a biological father normally would in order to keep the balance of the family and household.

He also knows when to step back to allow mother of the children take charge as she is the primary authority and caregiver for those children.

Still, he willingly helps the mother provide and care for the children, bonds with them, and is there for emotional support and parental guidance when necessary.

He Has A Big Heart

A good stepfather understands that the idea of a family doesn't always have to mean by blood.

He puts in the effort over time to make a genuine connection with the family and solidify his place as the fatherly role model. He comes to truly love them as his own family and puts them as first priority.

He works hard and loves harder. Even when things become challenging and there's a bump in the road, he loves anyway.

He Chooses To Be There

A great stepdad isn't there because he has to be. He's there because he wants to be. Day after day, he chooses to be there for the family and stays loyal to them as a father should.

He doesn't feel burdened by the responsibility - he feels honored.

He legitimately wants to come into the family with kindness, humility, gentleness, strength, courage, and patience.

He chooses them for a reason, and he doesn't want anyone else.

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Even though my mother is gone from the world, and I don't live with my stepdad anymore, I still think of him as a father. I still visit him, call him on Father's Day, and tell him I love him.

My biological father is still in my life too, and him and my stepdad have always gotten along really well, which has been nice to have throughout my life.

I can't really imagine life without either of them.

3 Reasons Stepdads Are Awesome And Deserve Respect
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