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I’ve been seeing a med student for ~a month and a half. I completely understand that their schedule is busy- I’m also in school but not as intense as them. I asked a couple of weeks ago what they thought about us, just to get an idea of where he is.

He said that he hadn’t reflected on it much because he’s been busy with school. To clarify, I asked if he wanted to stop things or see where we end up, and he chose the latter. Essentially, I gave him an out but he didn’t take it.

He drunk texted me and brought up s*x for the first time a few days ago (he went to visit his friends in another state and they got hammered). I went along with it because honestly, I thought about it and kinda wanted it too.

Right after that, it’s like he fell off the face of the earth. The next day after (I guess drunkenly asking for booty call), we chatted as usual throughout the day. I then asked him to call me (nothing serious, he’s never called me before and I just like talking rather than texting). He said he would as soon as he finished up in the hospital. I didn’t hear back from him for a couple of days.

So I finally texted him to see what was going on and he apologized and said that things were getting kinda crazy with school. Which I get with final exams coming.

The thing is, does this sound like a legitimate excuse or is it him kinda ghosting me? I gave him an out literally about a week or two ago which he didn’t take. Do guys act weird like this after bringing up sex? And if he is ghosting, why didn’t he just take the out I offered and why has he always made the effort to initiate talking good morning text almost everyday, except a few days?

I’ve been seeing a med student for ~a month and a half. I completely understand that their schedule is busy- I’m also in school but not as intense as them. I asked a couple of weeks ago what they thought about us, just to get an idea of where he is.

He said that he hadn’t reflected on it much because he’s been busy with school. To clarify, I asked if he wanted to stop things or see where we end up, and he chose the latter. Essentially, I gave him an out but he didn’t take it.

He drunk texted me and brought up s*x for the first time a few days ago (he went to visit his friends in another state and they got hammered). I went along with it because honestly, I thought about it and kinda wanted it too.

Right after that, it’s like he fell off the face of the earth. The next day after (I guess drunkenly asking for booty call), we chatted as usual throughout the day. I then asked him to call me (nothing serious, I just like talking rather than texting). He said he would as soon as he finished up in the hospital. I didn’t hear back from him for a couple of days.

So I finally texted him to see what was going on and he apologized and said that things were getting kinda crazy with school. Which I get with final exams coming.

The thing is, does this sound like a legitimate excuse or is it him kinda ghosting me? I gave him an out literally about a week or two ago which he didn’t take. Do guys act weird like this after bringing up sex? And if he is ghosting, why didn’t he just take the out I offered and why has he always made the effort to initiate talking good morning text almost everyday, except a few days?

I was seeing this guy for about a month. We met on Hinge. We’re both med students in different schools in diff states (next to each other) so we have busy schedules. We have gone on a couple of dates (he initiated the first one, I initiated the second). He would initiate texting almost every morning to see what I had going on for the day/check in.

A day or two after date 2, it seemed like he was a little distant? He didn’t text me for two days so I asked what was up (he was helping a roommate move and went to see his parents). He went right back to texting me as usual. I did ask him a little while back what he thought about him and I. He said he’s been busy with school so he hasn’t taken time to think it out but he wanted to see where things go. Also, no mention of sex from his end at all, until:

Here’s where things get weird: one weekend, he sorta sent a booty call message to me (post exam celebration with his friends so he had a few drinks). I played along because honestly, I was kinda interested. The next morning, he seemed kinda distant. I told him to call me (I missed the sound of his voice) and he said he would after he finished a shift in the hospital. Haven’t heard from him since and it’s been a few days.

Is he ghosting me? Or should I reach out? He’s usually the one to reach out and will even double text if he hasn’t heard from me but nothing so far.

And if it he is ghosting, why make the effort to initiate communication with someone everyday for a month? If for sex, why would he talk to me for a month before bringing it up?