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My SO and I are having problems. We are not sleeping together but we are co-habitating at her place. She cries and sobs (quietly) whenever I say I can leave. Yesterday she wanted me to leave. As soon as I was ready she changed her mind and wants me to stay for a month or more. Essentially until the lockdown has ended.

This morning we have a bit of a breakthrough and we are talking normally instead of looking distant and cool all the time.

She leaves the door open when she is getting dressed. I see her topless she stops dressing and looks at me for a minute. She lets me look. She changes later with her door open again. No look this time just casual like before we had our problem.

Then she starts getting dressed to go out. She plays cards all afternoon. She usually dresses a bit sleazy for that which is one of our issues. She likes to give the boys a downblouse show during the game. Occasionally she has meetings with clients she dresses smartly for those.

But this time she wears a sheer white top with a black bra and long black pants. Takes a little longer to put on her makeup. Takes some time selecting a perfume rather than the usual one.
I ask her if she's going on a date. She says she's meeting a client and hopes to make a sale.

She is beingI have never seen her take such care in choosing a perfume before or wear a sheer top to a client meeting. She sells custom made women's clothing.

Is she lying or not?

And if she is then what's with the boob show?

First date and she (or he) says, "I really ready for marriage and I'm looking for someone who's ready to settle down when they find the right partner." Do you run as fast as you can and don't look back?

Do you stay and act polite, end the date, and then ghost them?

Do you explain that you aren't on the same page and tell them this obviously isn't going to work? Tell them you appreciate their candor? Tell them that you are relived to finally meet someone who is brave enough to admit how they feel. . . and you feel the same way?

In my experience, younger people do not often go on a first date and say, "I'm really looking for someone who is a good match for me so we can settle down and get married." I guess the thinking is that such a declaration would scare the living bejeezus out of your date and they'd run for the exit.

BUT. . . if your date feels that they aren't ready for marriage, wouldn't it be better to discover that now, rather than after you have been dating for three months and started falling for him/her? Do you talk about your dating goals on a first or second date?