Have any of you guys ever felt like you're not good enough to have dates? Does anyone else feel so little confidence in dating?

[nicolesomeone]

I'm as good a listener as I am a talker but I don't predict people's responses and reactions very well in any way so I don't think I can get any better at doing the conversation thing. I get nervous in the middle of conversation and I don't know why but I usually ask for guy's numbers even though I think they like better being the one who is allowed to be the one to do the pursuing. I think I would all together prefer to avoid interactions in society because I usually get really nervous and paranoid about the impression I left. I don't do as much talking if I'm seeing someone because my moods vary so much. My moods, if I shouldn't be in one I am so I can't stop talking or I can't do anything but be quiet, or they're doing something on a very subconscious level and I can't help but be distracted. Sometimes my mind just says 'nope'. I can communicate well with people that know me like family but I can't be the very best communicator with someone who something can happen that embarrass me in front of. I just feel like my mind is racing through all the things that could happen and I feel like I live my life in fear. I just would like it if a guy would check on me and say 'is everything okay?' everyone knows they're confident and good at dating and I just feel like I watch society not knowing what I am meant to do when I try. Every time even if it's successful I feel embarrassment, like I made a scene then I walked away from it and they're thinking about or talking about me. How could her energy be like that? She is so unconfident... because I don't like to quit if I like someone like I'm very stubborn and my ego is big and sometimes I am not ready to do the things I want to like date because clearly I have to work my confidence. Toxic positivity. I do things because of my ego I listen to my ego and convince myself that I'm ok to date and I'm not a loser, but it still feels like that and I think it's cause I need more healing so I don't feel like a failure.

[HiveBee]

Being a shy girl doesn't hurt if you ask me. I talk to shy girls all the time. In the past, I didn't know they were shy. I thought they hated me. I thought they were afraid of me.

In reality, some liked me. And they shook in their boots in my presence.

And you know what I wish I knew what I do now. its so cute when a girl is shy. She can't look me in the eye, she's trembling. And yet, she won't leave me alone. She will hover near me. She will keep doing things to get me to talk to her. But let me do all the talking lol.

I think it's so damn cute. i dont see a girl as "lesser" if she is shy.

Also, to you OP, you have really bad social anxiety. Trust me I know! Lol.

You should see a therapist. Or do research on social anxiety and also on "cognitive behavioral therapy" which is what a therapist would do with you.

It sucks to have social anxiety. I know lol. It still tortures me today despite my massive improvements.

But I'm very happy how much I've improved. Its worth it to get better.

[Avicenna]

There is someone out there who is compatible with you. Don't overthink and overstress. If a guy likes you he won't nitpick and will want to get to know you.

[Anonymous]

Oh wow look!! 👨🏻👐🏻🤷🏻‍♂️ I'm not Black, Mexican, Asian or any other colors because they only date / sleep with men outside of their race / color / kind but won't date their own race / color / kind 👨🏻

That's why good men like myself stay single.

[DaveToo]

I'll be 76 in less than a month. Yeah, the dating scene is long in my past.

[Luckycharms12]

You sound quite hard on yourself. Dating can be hard if find someone who makes you feel good comfortable and confident it's half the battle.

[Iron_Man]

No I don’t feel that way