Do you have the fear of not being good enough for your partner when dating?

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Crimsyjo · Accepted Answer

There's a lot of fears. I'm scared of a highly successful man cos I feel he may have high expectations and I was brought up from a poor family and I value things in life that are not about material possessions or wasting money on fancy restaurants. I'm not the tidiest person either lol as I'd rather be doing more important things. So I'm fearful being judged on that. And then there is the whole opening up and revealing your more vulnerable sides! I tend to be a giver in relationships and then start feeling used so I need a guy who will give back not just take and can understand me when I'm getting upset.

luvstoned4him · Accepted Answer

When am Inlove , I will do anything to make sure my partners are happy. Fears and insecurities mostly arise when they criticize, belittle and cheat on me...

Chazmatazz269 · Accepted Answer

I’m not afraid of it, i’m exhausted by it. I’ve never met a woman who was happy with anything, or took any accountability for her own part in it. It’s exhausting trying to please someone who takes everything for granted and is never satisfied.

It’s one of the major reasons i quit dating.

OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

No. For me, it odds a combination of developing more confidence as i got older, and learning to not idealize or canonize the girls i dated. Regardless of how pretty she is, she too has flaws and weaknesses. And most women do not respect a guy who puts them on a pedestal.

Hellraiser1984 · Answer

It's because of sexual abuse from when I was a kid. And I was taught men are supposed to be hard ass and stone cold assholes. I'm afraid to let my guard down. I'm afraid she'll get angry if I do. Emotions were things men were not supposed to have and if you do you are a pu$$y and not worthy of a woman. My mom has liver problems and may die within ten years and I don't think I could let my guard down and just cry about it. I'm afraid she would reject me. Women really aren't these kind loving nurturing beings these days.

Sharkstealth · Answer

This is what i fear. On here women said that if a guy checks her out that its creepy if he doesn't talk to her after eye contact is held. I introduced myself to a gal from this situation and i was stalked from the parking lot by her girlfriend threatening gang violence on me if i returned to the public place i frequented. I informed the owner of the establishment and she was on video in the parking lot approaching me. I was then banned from the establishment. This is the result of females in power.

red324 · Answer

I find they just tend to get bored and move onto another guy, same story for him too, not really anything I do wrong, so really it's just a question of when are they going to leave, so you kind of have to just prepare yourself and never let yourself get too attached.

Gwendoline · Answer

When we were dating and getting married yes because he was this tall handsome well educated athletic charming guy and could have had girl he wanted but he wanted me for some reason. It doesn't help after meeting some of his exs and the fact that women will often flirt with him right in front of me, one recently give him her number.

cheapshotbob · Answer

if you have a fear of not being good enough, you're too sensitive. And no $60 an hour. psychiatrist can get you out of that little rut you're in. it's on how you perceive things if you can't perceive things being lesser. than you then. you're never going to win or do better

LunarEclipse433 · Answer

Females have so many choices of guys to pick from I sometimes wonder if I can keep them interested.

Nonamez · Answer

I don't have a fear of not being good enough for dating partner , but I do understand that I might be not the right person for dating partner after conversation and some questions / answers 🤔😇 I'm pretty confident, a bit arrogant ( just a bit ) and I always keep emotional distance , to make sure my testosterone or first impression is not dictating my mind , opinion and some decisions 🤔😇

Unit1 · Answer

I  always  assume I'm not good enough. But that's not an excuse to not enjoy the lovely girls. There's always a Mr Richer, better looking, higher status, younger, more experienced, more exciting and so on. The question is what makes the girl stay with me? " She's not yours. It's just your turn "

lorenzomichael · Answer

Fuck no I do t worry about shit like that. If we hit it off with one another then that’s where we start to really getting to know each other, if we’re honest, loving, fun you know the good shit. I’m not talking about the music they like whats there favorite car that kinda shit I can care less about.

bobby_bush_eater · Answer

I think my biggest internal fear is that my love and the deep amount of effort I put in won't ever really be matched or reciprocated. It's sort of along the lines of the question but a bit different I suppose.

It's taken me a long time to realize this and upon reflection it was an evident issue for me in my 2 relationship.

UnusualWeirdo · Answer

There is always fear of not being good enough but that's just how I am.

ClassicDropout · Answer

I always feel like there's something I could improve on. I don't like wasting someone's time or feeling like I'm tricking them into giving me a chance. I just won't date until I feel like someone wouldn't be settling for me.

SolitarySolace · Answer

All men aren't good enough for women. Women will always think they're better. Which makes them entitled and condescending

nevooo · Answer

Not really, I usually lose interest in relationships pretty quick.

patrick994 · Answer

Yes, too many times I was insecure about this, not only during dating, but also when the relationship was established. Now I am trying to improve myself and slowly gain confidence in myself.

Paul09 · Answer

Yup. Probably one of the big reasons in single. "Am I good enough for her?". Drives me Crazy.

Tiffanyloves2swallow · Answer

All the time as much as we fight it's ridiculous

Reymundo41 · Answer

I keep it a bean from the moment we start texting all the way to marriage, what you see is the genuine article. So with that being said anyone who dates me, already sees what they're gonna get once we get past the puppy stage

Chelsdope0 · Answer

Definitely.. dating is so triggering and usually they do want someone better… that’s why I just do onlyfans

molonski2 · Answer

No , have never had that feeling , thats for sure.

DeeDeeDeVour · Answer

There were moments when I doubted that I was good enough for him.

Jersey2 · Answer

The thought of either me or her not being good enough never crossed my mind while dating women.

Bricealan · Answer

There are or WERE times I felt that way, in terms of accomplishments, skills,

Cat67 · Answer

VERY MUCH SO I DID VERY MUCH that that was why I gave up in the '90s I haven't been dating or the sex stuff for a long time that's one of the reasons.

Retief · Answer

You have to be able to be comfortable. Speak to your partner about it. He/she has to make you not feel that way.

Wiredone · Answer

I never had that fear. I am who I am. They either like me or they don't

justabuddy · Answer

Some things are always on the back of your mind. But you have to realize that you did just fine without them.

KeithLane · Answer

I can never tell how people feel about me. You might love me or hate me and I have no clue.

elaphe · Answer

Absolutely not. Not to brag, but I have a lot to offer.

NumberOneStunna · Answer

I know my girlfriend is too good for me. She a university degree and I can’t even spell my real name

sean1234 · Answer

😆 I have no partner and never have, so no, lol.

IslaTheWitch · Answer

nope

clampfan101 · Answer

Yes, but I’m trying to work on it.

Willthonger · Answer

I think everyone does.

exitseven · Answer

I try not to.

Slim57 · Answer

Sometimes

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