I’m starting to think I’m the problem, it never ends bad but it just doesn’t work.
Does anyone else feel like they have bad luck with dating?
I’m starting to think I’m the problem, it never ends bad but it just doesn’t work.
You have bad luck because your picking 1 guy out 3 some odd Billion on the planet hoping hell be Mr. Riiight. Not to mention, the guys are not being themselves, but being what they think will get your time for however long they wish to do so. If you stop thinking you need to be in a relationship you'll stop making hasty choices...
When we are hungry, we will eat almost anything...
Learn who you are, be comfortable with yourself and maybe educate yourself on a little bit of proven information on the psychology of a man. There is a big difference to how we compute the world around us, especially relationship of opposite sex. While it is possible to find love, its more likely to find you. i. e. Invest in yourself, do what you love, be ok with not being in a relationship, still be social and eventually love will align parallel alongside your path, not cross it. Crossing is a disruption of your path.
What kind of guys have you been dating?
Foreign mostly
When I was younger I didn't have a lot of dating luck. Most of my crushes did not like me back at all. I didn't have my real first boyfriend until 18/19. After we broke up I met my husband. Also the reason you're not meeting the right one yet could be it's just not you're time, there's something that you need to improve about yourself until you get into a relationship. There's so many people who haven't found themselves, matured, healed etc. that are jumping to quickly in relationships. This could be a sign for you that you need to focus on loving yourself first before trying to love someone else.
It’s not bad luck. Sometimes, we just have a type. 😂 so if we keep going for the same kind, we’ll never learn and the cycle repeats itself.
Exactly!!
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Only reason anybody dates anybody is because of getting benefits the second one doesn’t get there benefits they get bent outta shape and drama starts in the relationship all part of human nature we have a reward center in the brain and when we aren’t having that reward center lighting up humans get angry or emotional
Some have lot of empathy empathy comes with other emotions like guilt and such but Doesn’t matter if someone is guilty feeling guilty doesn’t prevent someone from what they really want. Having empathy and the emotions that are added with it means they need a lot of attention and will be hard to get along with and will complain that they aren’t getting the attention
the emotional brain Overrides the logical brain that’s why Someone can destroy someone over feeling emotional and At that point of feeling emotional they no longer care about going to jail or prison and they just have 1 thing they want to fuck that person up to destroy them.
But then after the Fact after they have used up all the emotions and are being handcuffed and sent to jail or they wake up from a long night of emotions they feel guilty so in the moment of someone being emotional they don’t care and will hurt anybody and won’t give a damn but it’s only when they are no longer emotional and are logical that’s when they feel the guilt that’s when they care.
But when they do something that is a crime in the moment of emotions they don’t care but then they feel guilty but also emotional and feelings like they will be destroyed so they say it wasn’t there fault to protect themselves from being destroyed in court and will go to any lengths to make themselves look like the victim.
So that the court lets them off the hook or gives them a small punishment
so people shouldn't date? All relationships are doomed?
Yeah they all all doomed from the beginning.
There is no promise of True love and happily ever after that’s all Fiction. Crap off movies isn’t Going to happen in real life.
Humans are hard wired to be happy all the time.
We hardwired to be negative you can be happy one second then someone can do something or say something and the happiness automatically goes away.
so extinction is in order, okay, that is probably logical course
Humans are not hard wired to be happy all the time.
its not all about being happy, but fullfilled. when you work out you're not happy its hard but you feel good. you also feel good when you do the right thing even if it hurts you
Extinction sounds good to me we’re all going go extinct as it is. Nothing ever last forever ♾ you’ll go extinct eventually from something it’s not like You’ll be making yourself go extinct. You’ll be sparing many humans from pain and suffering by not Bringing them into existence after all this existence isn’t some fairyland of beauty real shit with real consequences with pain happens here
And you gotta work 40 years of your life
Life here just isn’t worth bring someone here to suffer. Well just seem like dicks for doing that. I know both of my parents are evil for bringing me into this world.
And no I don’t feel good from doing the right thing.
I feel nothing everyday
The only thing I do feel is Peace and relaxation everyday and that’s it.
But many do not feel that.
i dubt yoou dont feel good about anything, you lie to ysf. its easy to think that if you think its all pointless, a lot is in the mindset; if you are already here why not enjoy as much as you can
Also, we can't act like we know it all. Who are you to say we shouldn't exsist at all? Humans exsist and just cause it seems pointless to us doesn't mean it is; we dont know everything and we may not be able to or not even supossed to. Sure physical world seems so harsh but emotions, energies, vibes are also real and that cannot be comprehed by rational thinking
Yeah it’s called a brain chemical
Emotions are caused by brain chemical change your thoughts your beliefs you can get rid of your guilt and empathy
emotions are one thing, but there are energies as well
also ceratin aspects in nature are very mathematically precise, there is so little odds for certain things yet they always happen, so it seems on purpose, like mirace, against all odds, that is something that is beyond relm of phyisical world
Not everyone is in line with Love energies. And if you know anything about energies you will know the different energies change a person at spirit level.
If you showed me a picture of even one of the guys you've been with, I'd probably understand immediately
I saw some of the guys my girl was with before me and I was shocked, boy did she get an upgrade. They were total fucking dead beat losers and she just didn't see it. She thought they were just normal decent looking guys.
Some girls are so infatuated with a certain type of guy that they're completely blind to the monster standing right in front of them and everyone else thinks "what the hell are doing with this dick?"
Unfortunately, I don't think you'll ever see it. You're just not into actual decent guys unless they're handsome
Or I'm completely wrong and you're a total nut case who turns decent guys away
looks matter
I think honestly everyone has its tastes and probably you haven’t still found the right man that suits yours. Or maybe, you haven’t still found the perfect chemistry and loyalty that is the fundament of a healthy relationship.
You’re not the problem, you have your standards and you can work to find your fit. Obviously if your standards are too high, you should fix a bit them but the major work is to find someone to have a good entente and respect with.
Relationships definitely take 2 people! Based upon the information you've provided, it kind of sounds like the men you're dating like you, but they don't feel like you're putting much effort into the relationship.
I know that I totally lose interest when I don't get the vibe that the woman I'm talking to feels like putting in any effort. I don't need to feel pursued, but I do want to feel like the woman I'm talking to would miss me if we hadn't spoken for a while.
That second image was me when I was 14-15 lmao
In all seriousness, I have been unlucky, but it's probably because my self-esteem wasn't the best, I didn't really like myself at all, and I was too trusting of anyone and everyone. I've tried to stop being like that so that I don't run into issues like what I dealt with in the past in the near future.
It could very well be you... or maybe you have a type that doesn't mesh well. OR (and most likely) most people just aren't compatible. You should just try and learn from each experience and always be bettering yourself (with or without a partner) so that when you DO find the right person for you, you can make it work.
You know your situation better than anyone, so your suspicion is probably correct. Do you find you run hot sometimes and cold others?
I usually lose interest fast bc I am the type of person that studies others and when I see a habit that I don’t like I try to compromise with it but sometimes I just leave the situation
Well that might be part of the issue. Everyone is going to have habits you don't like to some extent.
No most people bore me & I dislike dealing with someone's new ticks and mannerisms. I also dislike dealing with random female emotions that come outta nowhere. I like being single.
Lol I get it
I honestly don't understand why people long for others. y'all wanna share life with another why? Haha it don't work and years go by and it's a huge waste of time. That's why all these 40-60 year old men newly single and to old to get back in the game. All they can do is flaunt money to attract women but the whole time they could been doing this. I don't get it haha same for females that finally leave a dude old cause now they old.
I get what you mean but for me personally I don't know I always wanted to be married 😂 I just do. I’m the type of person that likes to cater to my person.
Yes, I always choose guys that are nice as friends but suck as biyfriends. It's a neverendung cycle I decided to let them find ms, take a break fir a minute or 2.
I think people get stuck making the same mistakes which end relationships faster. Maybe part is picking the wrong sort of people for themselves to begin with.
Haha. didn't even get a chance to check my luck. Only managed to meet her a couple of times after the engagement.
Arranged marriage?
Yep. 😁
Wow how has that worked out?
25+ years and counting.. 😁
Don't give up on love. You never know when you will find the one. You can't search for love, love has to find you. Giving up on it is not a option period !! 😉
Yeah, but I’m around your age and I think that’s the problem, in my experience most guys in their early 20s don’t want anything serious
Every date is a waste of time until you find the person who is right. Actually, when I found the right one it didn't even involve any dates.
The woman I wanted to date not only told me she planned on having kids, unfortunately she also recommended me to find a job since I graduated from college. But due to covid this is what kept me from asking her out until she went for some jerk she doesn't even want to live with.
I have no luck with dating. Honestly it’s a great source of depression, anxiety, self hatred, anger and resentment. I don’t even look at women anymore it seems pointless to yearn for a partner when that’s not an option
No and the first tweet is so cringe and even more cringe because its a grown man🤦
Lol I love Mads Mikkelson
yeah, total bad luck, but if you are really looking for love that is not easy to find
Just bad luck in general. I think my singer wrote the song, "Magnet Of Bad Luck" about me!
Its the same for me. You are not alone. They just can't put the effort to maintain a conversation. They are so lame
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