Can you admit that you suck at dating to your date?

[Mimi1964]

[AmandaYVR]

I think admitting flaws is endearing.

But perhaps don't phrase it that way? You can find a still-colourful but less deriding way of expressing it. Make it humorous, and a conversation-starter, not ender.

[Jamie05rhs]

Like how, though? Lol

[AmandaYVR]

I don't have a good answer for that.
I asked you-know-who and he agreed with what I said, but his only suggestion was, "I'm not that good at dating yet." (Yet being the operative word. Shows some humility and intention to improve, but not a debilitating insecurity about it.)
It takes more creativity and playfulness than I have in me right now.

[Jamie05rhs]

@AmandaYVR Okay.

[Ευδεμονια]

Sure not at first date, but if is required a lot of honesty and self criticise, I’d say that. It can help to free myself from burdens…
I told once one of my dates I suck at dating and expressing sentiments, it has been the last time we saw. I wanted to be honest with her and she thanked me for honesty, but evidently we weren’t done one for the other.
I don’t have fear admitting and saying that because it’s evident, my date would be very stupid not being aware of the fact…

[Adam1978]

No I don't start negative topics on a date. You are supposed to have a good time, starting by discussing things you are bad at or don't like is a good way to ruin the mood. Since you don't know the other person's humor trying to make that a joke or a way to lighten the mood is a big gamble.

[MrHopper]

Yeah its a good ice breaker to be honest as everyone hates dating and everyone sucks balls at it! :) make you both feel more relaxed

[bean2k21]

Women say this ALL THE TIME. Basically, I interpret as not to put a label on our relationship.

[Mimi1964]

I think its mostly because we cannot read what the guy really thinks and makes us insecure where this goes. What's a woman to do?

[bean2k21]

Reframe your thoughts. Instead of dating, just find out what he's interested in or what he's doing this weekend and ask if you can tag along. For me personally, I wouldn't mind company most places I go unless I'm doing something weird like spying on the neighbors with binoculars.

[Drumlin2001]

Yeah. They should appreciate your honesty, gives you a chance to talk about expectations from each other

[Jamie05rhs]

That's a very good question!

I readily admit it, and I have no qualms about it. But one of my boys said I shouldn't do that because it will make me look unattractive.

[FilmGuy93]

I wouldn't. But I guess women can get away with more than men can on dates.

[boggboss]

Wouldn't say its the best thing to do

[Mimi1964]

No, of course not. But when you're into someone the brain goes definitely foggy, ughhhh.

[boggboss]

Thats normal tho u start overthinking what u say and situation just learn to relax and not second guess yourself

[MikeInHawaii]

Why? They’ll figure it out soon enough!

[In_Trance]

what's the logic behind this?