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So let suppose a girl was a 10/10 and she had an ex-bf who she dated for 6 years from college to her present age 28. This guy is her first pick for a mate (alpha genetics, money, charismatic, smart). However, there comes a point in her life in her late 20's when she is seeing all her friends getting married, the wedding pics on FB and people she grew up with having babies and she wants that too. So she constantly pestering her man to put a ring on her and that just drives him up a wall and makes him not want to do it even more. What happens usually is either the man gets fed up at her constant nagging e and ultimatums and dumps her or something in her head goes off that this guy doesn't want a serious relationship and commitment from me and she drops him. Real Life example: "Ye, she's desperately trying to get married and have a kid before 30. And if he doesn't put a ring on it, she will leave and find a beta that will do it quickly (probably lower value than your brother)." Response: Funny thing is, this happened to another friend of mine. 10 years dating, he and his ex were approaching 30 as well. They broke it off, she found another dude within months and got engaged. Following year they had a kid." So they break up. What many women do is they start looking for guys who they think will commit within a year and this usually means lowering on looks and putting more emphasis on other things like job and status for provider qualities. This can either be a totally new guy she doesn't know or a guy she kept in the friendzone for all these years and who has done pretty good for himself. So she comes to you. She's a 7/10 now. Her youthful glow is gone, she has wrinkles and got a little fatter but she is still an attractive women with good genetics. She is the best looking girl you ever got a chance to date and now wants to date you because she thinks your the best man available to her that will commit within a year. Would you be ok with this?

Chasing women is a waste in this day and age as you basically place yourself in a position of lower value even if she does give you a chance because you had to come to her. In fact one can make a point if a woman really does want you their will be no chase. I've seen it all before where guys would work weeks, months, maybe even years trying to impress and win a girl over who couldn't really give a fuck about him and would only give him a chance when she gets desperate or needs a backup man/rebound guy after coming out of a breakup.
The same guy whose impressing a girl and trying to win her over. There is a guy who is probably only reply with 3 or 4 words, sometimes single word to this same girl and she's chasing him like crazy and giving him heart shape likes on his FB pics.

Chasing women is pointless and stupid. Focus on your life, build yourself up to a point where women would want to come to you. But this leads to another problem. The quality of women coming to you might not be good quality. Many could be gold diggers, opportunistic women who just want a piece of your hardwork. For a man who has risen to high status male level, women on his level still want to play the upper hand game where men (even on his level) must come to them.

And if you didn't raise your value high enough you might find yourself single for a long time get desperate and start chasing again.

" I was single and didn't chase women for a while, because I though the way you think. After almost 7 years of NOT GETTING ANYTHING, I began to actively look for women. It took me two months to get a girlfriend. After that one, lesson learned, took me another month and a half finding the next girlfriend."
Again putting you back in a position where you give women position of power by being perceived as more valuable and might even be settling for lower quality of stock of girls that you otherwise would of never settle for when you were younger.

So this begs the question chase or not to chase?