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I'm curious on how this possibly life altering, possibly relationship ending subject is being handled by the general populus, since in what little I recieved for sex-ed in school or at home, this aspect has never been addressed with any sense of importance, if at all.
Afterall an "accident" could easily turn into a fight, ending with life long and/or legal consequences, if the parties involved have different ideas on how to handle it.
As someone who absolutely doesn't want to have children, at least I wouldn't wanna miss out on that kind of talk beforehand. (if I'll ever get it on with a girl, that is)
So, what about you? Got any wisdom on the matter to share?

4 Facts About Dating

1. IN 1900, DATING COULD BE A FELONY.
At the turn of last century, dating was still a new concept and law enforcement wasn't sure what to make of it—but they were sure something sordid was going on. A young man and woman meeting in public, him buying her food, drink, and gifts: well, it was veritable prostitution in the eyes of authorities, and women could be arrested for it.

2. DATING INTRODUCED PRIVACY TO THE PROCESS OF COURTSHIP.
Ironically, a man and a woman meeting in public was the best way to have some privacy. Before dating, courtship involved suitors calling on prospective partners in the family home. And since McMansions were not yet a thing, it meant the parlor or kitchen, where there were always eyes and ears close by.

3. DATING QUICKLY BECAME A BIG BUSINESS.
Before dating came into the picture, "courtship" and "calling" were conducted with the express goal of marriage. It was a family affair, as callers meant heirs, property, and happiness. The newly established dating industry, however, had other goals in mind. Marriage would hurt business. "For the first time in human history," writes Weigel, "dating made it necessary to buy things in order to get face time with a prospective partner. This remains true today."

4. HIPPIES WERE LATE TO THE FREE LOVE GAME.
With the rise of Marxism and feminism in the 1800s came the belief by some activists that marriage was itself "sexual slavery." Victoria Woodhull, the first woman to run for president of the United States, described herself as a "free lover" with the inalienable right to love whomever she chose, whenever she chose, for however long she chose, "and with that right," she said, "neither you nor any law you can frame have any right to interfere.”

Inspired by @MM5578 and his post.
WHICH WOULD YOU CHOOSE?

1) A new dating and sexual partner every week for the next ten weeks that you can do anything sexually and romantically with. Each one will fit your specific criteria in what you like in someone as much as possible. After the week is up, the person you're with will leave to travel back home and a new one will join you. No money will be given to you for this choice.

2) Twelve-month all-expenses paid trip around the world and $500,000 but you'll be by yourself the entire time and can't talk to any friends or family for the whole trip. You also can't make any new friends or have sex the entire time, either.

3) Five million dollars but you'll have to be castrated or undergo FGM (if female) and can never have sex or a libido ever again. You'll still have genitals, but they will be useless for sex and you'll never be able to get sexual pleasure ever again.

If you choose none of these options, then just pick the fourth one.

Bonus link.

Is this a new trend that started in the last decade or so, am I wrong for thinking this or am I self projecting?

I just find it funny because a lot of people I've known with low self esteem have had shades of narcissism and a strange inferiority/superiority complex. Are they delusional and this is just how they cope by bouncing between two extremes?

I feel like I'm no exception to this, because I find myself on this pendulum swing between these two extremes at times depending on the situation and circumstances, but I'm able to dismantle this nonsense by objectively analyzing the situations.

I notice this a lot when it comes to dating where people who lack quality options (or any options at all) thinking they deserve some sort of perfect being, or those who demand loyalty and respect but simultaneously lack morals & ethics. I find it so hilariously asinine.

Some examples - undesirable/incel type of men demanding some sort of make believe traditional virgin woman/wife BUT they lack masculinity or desirable traits (like personality, strength, athleticism, overall attractiveness, and competency, etc.. )

And overly sexual & aggressive women who lack morals & ethics and anything else desirable/respectable from a partner, and they do shady hoe shit demanding men who look like professional athletes with CEO incomes.

I just find the lack of awareness funny & kind of sad, I don't know what could be done to find a balance (at least not in a generic advice sort of way because a lot of these problem require immense effort & soul searching that pertains to that particular individual even if the problems are fairly common & shared)