**THIS ISN'T INTENDED TO BE CONSTRUED AS judgmental, BUT AS A WAKE-UP CALL**
Back in 2013 I screwed up and became a Daddy. After we split, I looked back at events and regretted what I did. Don't get me wrong, I don't regret my daughter's life. But at the same time, she shouldn't have come in the world the way she did. She should have evolved from two MARRIED Parents who could be with her for her entire life everyday. Not two people who got careless, conceived her then ended up going their separate ways. Now I know a lot of you are going to start commenting on this calling me a hypocrite for all the posts where I come down hard on people for their sex-related posts and questions. BUT YOU ALL NEED TO UNDERSTAND WHY I DO IT.
Lets start with this site. There is a post on here entitled, "Did You Know You Can Sue Someone Over Herpes?" It basically is an example of Sex + Without Protection = an STD. Fortunately, it is one that can be treated and she can move on with life. But what if more comes of it? More specifically...IT TAKES IT'S TOLL ON A WOMAN'S BODY FOR NINE MONTHS. These are the situations that the Big Guy upstairs CONSTANTLY throws us red flags about; Telling us to knock this shit off and keep our clothes on until we finally Marry the Prince or Princess that was destined for us. Just because we enter into a relationship with somebody doesn't warrant the o.k. to be careless.
Take my daughter for example...she went to live with her Mom, who turned out to be a piece of shit and let the RIGHT person into her apartment at the RIGHT time. They contacted C.Y.S and in an instant, she and her half Brother were placed into the care of a very loving Mennonite family in a neighboring town. Amber kept her apartment in ABSOLUTELY DEPLORABLE condition. My Daughter ended up with pneumonia and Amber, the most useless and worthless piece of shit that can be called a Mother, purposely never bothered to administer her the medication prescribed to my Daughter. "Mommy of the Year" played favorites between her and the half Brother, just because of who his Daddy was. Well in the long run, the Mennonite family adopted both kids.
The point I am making is it is time everyone gets their shit together, their head out of their ass and begin making more responsible choices. And one example of that is the term "SEXUAL PARTNERS"; You are just presenting yourself as "Easy". A relationship CAN and WILL survive without Intercourse, if the relationship is meant to last. There are ways of expressing love towards each other without having to use sex to exhibit it.
For those of you who are active with Dating, it is inevitable you will experience TEMPTATION; There ARE ways of fighting and overcoming it. Yes there is Prayer, but there is also the ability to say to yourself, "I'm NOT going to do, I am going to be responsible.".
But get out there, meet people and WIN THAT CRUSH OVER with a date they will never forget!! One that doesn't involve getting a painful infection or a nine month and 18 yr responsibility that mandates his/her own budget.
SEE YOU OUT IN THE COMMUNITY EVERYONE!!!
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Here's a better message for the guys. Don't get a woman pregnant. EVER!
Either put on a condom EVERY TIME or, better yet, just always fuck them in the ass.
But DO NOT get a woman pregnant, because you as a father with have ZERO rights, and you will have put yourself at the mercy of today's low value, heartless women.
You deserve better. Put yourself first and don't ever let yourself get in a position where a woman can fuck up your life the way this woman did this guy's life.
Sorry bro, I feel for you, but let's keep it real.
Thank you, I genuinely appreciate that!!
Thanks for MHO, man. Best of luck to you in all of this.
Thank you. and you are welcome. I was fortunate, in the respect that I was able to go through the Dept. of Viral Statistics in New Castle, PA to get a fresh copy of the birth certificate with MY name on it. Oh yeah! Baby mamma DELIBERATELY kept my name of the Birth Certificate. But I had it amended so my name would be on it and I would have rights. I guarantee you she was PIIIIISSED!!! But it served her right. For three months I had always put her first. But even her own Mom said to me, "Amber does what Amber wants" 🙄
Wow, sorry to hear that bro. Amber sounds like a real bitch. I'm glad you were able to take matters into your hands and get your name on the birth certificate. That is huge!
This all just underscores the lack of rights men have in all of this. A woman can get pregnant by a guy and LEGALLY never tell him he has a child walking around in the world.
Or, she can wait until the child is 10 and then tell him and legally force him to pay child support, even though she has robbed him of the first ten years of his child's life, something he can never get back.
It's despicable how women have the legal right to abuse the fathers of their children, sometimes even men who AREN'T actually the fathers of their children.
Anyway, good on you for fighting back and taking what is rightfully yours.
Not to mention the fact that a Woman can wait 10 years (as you said), then come time for the hearing with Domestic Relations... they can back charge you from the time the kid is BORN, to present day. They could have done that to me, but the officer only ordered me to pay $100 /a month, which is the MINIMUM in Pennsylvania.
True! Glad it worked out okay for you.
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