How do you know if the guy you’re seeing wants something causal or more serious?

Anonymous
I (20F) have been seeing this guy (22M) for the past month and a half. We met at a party he was hosting and we ended up hooking up the following day.

Since then he would invite me over often to watch movies and cuddle (not always sexual which was nice) and he would cook me dinner sometimes too. Two weeks after that, he went to sea for a month (we are both in Navy) and told me he wanted to take me out to dinner when he got back.

He came back a week ago and we’ve been texting a lot and he’s invited me over a few times. Yesterday though he was talking about his sex life with his previous partners around our mutual friends and said that lots of women on his ship fancy him (which is not surprising). He said that some of them even send him nudes while he’s at work and he talked about his experiences at strip clubs and all that. Our sex is quite vanilla since I’ve only been with one other partner before him. It made me wonder if I was just a hookup to him and if I’m like these other women in his life.

I can’t deny I have feelings for him and I know I’m pushing well above my weight in terms of looks with him but I feel insecure now and I’m scared if I keep going I’ll get hurt. He’s never talked about anything serious about us before or even mentioned that he likes me.
How do you know if the guy you’re seeing wants something causal or more serious?
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