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I have noticed a pattern regarding social interactions throughout my life. I was an only child for most of my younger years, through middle school and up until now, I encounter animosity with other individuals. I was bullied as a kid and dealt with catty girls in high school. I am now in my mid twenties and have my first real job, I cannot say it has improved. I never really have drama with men, it’s always women. I do not see myself as a threat, I’m very quiet. When I tried to be friendlier in high school, people picked on me. I have come to a point where I just am completely solitary and still seem to have this issue, I am now being bullied in the workplace. People have made remarks about how quiet I am, I do not greet when I leave or enter the office. I should find a middle ground where I can be introverted & still friendly to some degree but I choose not to.

For the most part, there is always 1-2 women, that try to make my life difficult in some type of environment (work/school). I know I sound like a victim here but I cannot help but come to the conclusion that I am. I go from dealing with school girls to grown women with children. I’m damned if I do and dammed if I don’t. I do not think my experience has been normal, I do not want to come across as a pushover. I refuse to be a people pleaser, I prefer to put my foot down. This has been brought to the attention of management, they’re generally passive and tend to approach from a general standpoint (try to at least sustain the issue/ not make it too obvious). It usually results in the drama gets out of control and there’s tense confrontation.

Any insight? Doesn’t sound like I’m the issue?