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It makes me laugh when I see a full-grown 25 year-old man having a crush on a coworker or something, like dude, highschool is over, you're not an emotional teenager anymore.

In my honest opinion, having a crush definitely is an immature thing, for two main reasons:

1- When a person has a mature mind, they work on themselves and evolve to the point they're happy with what they are, they know their worth and fall in love with themselves, they will have full confidence to ask their love interest out and see where it goes from there, if it fails, they think to themselves "it's their loss, they missed a great partner" or "we're too different anyway now that I think of it" and they shrug it off easily, not a love interest anymore because their time is valuable, next!
(Which is why it's important to love yourself before loving someone else)

2- Mature people tend to think more logically, even when it comes to emotions, they can control them well by looking beyond the emotional field into the logical one to slowly eliminate any negativity that comes to mind, so they'd eliminate the feelings of weakness and fear then propose to their love interest, if it doesn't work, they eliminate the negative feelings of rejection, eliminate any further feelings for their crush because logical thinking, and they shrug it off as well, NEXT!

And if they can't crush on someone because of other reasons (religion, commitement, etc) they think logically and know it isn't possible, or they weigh the losses and gains to know what to do, or they use that restrictive time to work on themselves, then finally and most importantly, get over it.


A strategic mind which isn't so held back by emotion and can have strategic thinking to decrease any losses of valuable resources is a fully mature mind.

I have a different perspective on love than most people. I see love in more of a scientific sense. I see love as a source of personal pleasure and natural biology, when we look for love we seek mainly two things, pleasure and procreation. When we love someone we are flooded with "feel good hormones" such as oxytocin, dopamine and serotonin and we naturally seek pleasure as humans just like how you listen to your favorite song and eat your favorite food you get pleasure from that. We also seek love in order to procreate and keep the human population flourishing, i. e. sex. I probably left some facts out but you probably got the gist of it by now. Some of you may think it's bland and dull, some of you might agree, some of you might find it cute in a nerdy way.

BEFORE YOU GET THE WRONG IDEA OF ME

Do I believe in love? Yes, I just don't believe in the whimsical fantasy of it portrayed in movies and fairy tales on how there's destiny and there's that "one" out there.

Do I think love is all about sex? Mostly, but it doesn't have to be. I'm actually waiting until marriage to have sex and populating the world isn't important anymore. The reason I say mostly is because if sex wasn't a thing then relationships wouldn't be a thing either, there would be no gender and no real reason to be in relationships and we would have friends instead.