I'd like to start by saying, nice guys don't finish last or at least, guys that are nice don't finish last. What a lot of "nice guys" don't realize is that most of the time they're either boring or creepy and that's why they scare off women. Now, I see myself, at the risk of sounding vain, as the less than desirable looking guy with the golden personality.
I'm not the guy that girls crush on. At least not anymore, and I'll explain what I mean by that later. When girls meet me, a lot of them seem a little bit evasive until they hear me speak and lower their guard (I also have a pretty nice voice, my coworkers call me Mufasa because I apparently sound like James Earl Jones). I assume they at first think I'll end up being a creep of some sort but I'm a very kind and friendly guy. I then seem to be the guy that every girl wants as their best friend and almost immediately trusts and opens up to. Now for most, they'd see this as the friend zone. A frustrating place that they're paranoid of getting sent to. The friend zone is a non-issue for me. I cannot tell you how many times a girl has seen me as just a friend and then I turned it around. A good personality goes a long way. Older women especially seem to love me, a soothing voice and a calming personality. Now in reference to what I said before about crushes. At one point in my life, I was considered a good looking guy. I was seen as cute. Girls would crush on me a lot, that's no longer something I experience often and when I say crushes, I mean more the unwarranted, spontaneous ones. Unfortunately I really damaged my metabolism by starving myself while doing intensive exercise to lose weight. It worked well. I lost 40lbs in less than a month, however I put that weight back on and then some. Now I can't seem to take the weight back off without special diets and spending an hour in the gym every day. I simply just don't have the time for that. Anyway, what I'm saying is, while looks do definitely help, (which makes sense, our subconscious minds try to alert us to potential threats and see those that we find attractive as more trust worthy) when you have other important facets of your being in check, good looks become almost arbitrary. In a sense, if you don't deserve to be in the friend zone, you won't end up there. If you find yourself constantly stuck there wondering why no one wants you, well take a good assessment of who exactly you are. Would you date you if you were the opposite sex? (And yes, this applies to women as well) Most of us are inclined to say yes and that's why we can't see what the problem is, otherwise it would have been changed immediately. All it takes is a little bit of pride swallowing, and an ounce of insight and everything will be fine.
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